I hope it would be OK if I update about my session with the new T..
So, overall, I think it went well. I like her so far. She is a body-centered therapist and specializes in childhood trauma and uses a lot of different approaches integrating the mind and body. I rushed myself at first, just like I did at first with my other T (not ready to call her old T yet), and new T saw this, saw how tense I was, and encouraged me to take my time, take some deep breaths, and go as slowly as I need. And I told her that I tend to rush because I don't expect people to have the patience or desire to hear what I have to say.
We kind of just talked..it wasn't all that structured, which was fine with me. She said a few times that she likes to go with what works, so she asked me if there were things that my other T did that I found helpful. I also mentioned how abruptly I ended things with her, and new T gently asked that I pay attention to that feeling, like a feeling in our stomach or somewhere in our bodies, that tips us off to that desire to end before we actually act on it. And she said that she hopes I'll be able to bring it up so we can talk about it, but she's also fine if I still want to stop. She said that there is something of value in the relationship I had with my other T and the way it ended, and that we should explore it over time.
She explained a little about some of the techniques she uses and about how she was trained. Toward the end she started to give me some papers, the typical informed consent stuff, privacy, etc. But she also gave me a few "inventories" like the Beck Depression one, some other one, and then the DES. She also requested, if I was comfortable with it, if she could have the name of the doctor who prescribes my meds so that she can coordinate with her. That was new - I know some Ts do this, but I've never experienced that.
My other T always stayed very far away from any sort of labels - this T isn't like that. I'm not quite sure how I feel about it. In some ways, it helps me feel more informed about what's going on with me. But I also don't want to just be a label. New T asked if my other T had ever discussed a diagnosis with me, and I said that she'd mentioned PTSD a few times. I told her that the diagnosis scares me.. New T said that it can be scary at first but eventually it can be empowering. I get why she said that, but to me it just sounds like positive thinking bull s***. Sorry.
If I stay with this T, though, I'll have to get used to the positive thinking thing, as that's one of the techniques she uses. She did say she uses some CBT.
She seemed to sense that I need a lot of reassurance about a lot of things, like the fact that I changed Ts or the fact that I really didn't have an questions for her right now. I did ask her at the end, though, if I seem like I am "too much" for her. She thanked me for asking and said no, that I don't seem like too much.
But then I got home and started doing all of the paperwork she gave me and I was going through it thinking that she's going to get those back and see that I'm a nutcase. I'm not sure how I feel about all the paperwork, either. I guess it's to help her know where I am right now, but somehow it also feels demeaning (a bit of a strong word, but I'm not sure how else to put it). I may just be too sensitive about that, though.
So, we'll see how it goes. I'm sorry I haven't been around the forum much, although whether I'm here or not doesn't matter all that much. I've had to work a fair amount of overtime recently, and now my mother will be moving in with me because she's getting a "fresh start" away from my father. It's going to be somewhat temporary - for several months - but I like living by myself, so that will be an adjustment. And actually, when I told new T this, she said that it was very forward of her to ask this when she barely knows me, but isn't there some other option rather than having her move in with me? A sound question, I think, because it is..drastic. So I explained why we're doing it. I'm still not convinced this isn't going to drive me over the edge, but I also feel like this is something I need to do to help my mom. I broke "free" from my father last year and she didn't approve at the time...now she's breaking free from him as well, and I feel like I need to do what I can to help her do that. I did tell her, though, that the only stipulation I have for her moving in with me is that she has to go to therapy. I told her that she can't move in with me if she doesn't seek out therapy. She eventually said yes. We will see, though.
It will also help having my mom here because she can help me do some of the manual labor around the farm that is too painful for me. I'm still having problems with my knee 4 months after I first hurt it. I'm trying to get answers, but I feel like I keep getting blown off which is unbelievably frustrating. I feel like I'm too young to already be in constant physical pain.
Anyway, I'm really sorry for the super long post. I'm sorry for anyone who read this far - I just rambled on forever. But thanks for anyone who read this, even if it was just a sentence. Seriously, thank you.