I've been chewing on this for a little bit yesterday and today.
What I'm seeing more and more lately are apologies from various members, new and experienced (notice I didn't say OLD).
I'd just like to say I value everyone's feedback and opinions here so much because everyone's speaking from his or her own excruciatingly painful experience(s). Sometimes, though, learning to deal with those same experiences make it extremely difficult to come here in the first place. That is so understandable.
What I sometimes forget is that even the more experienced members are working through their own things, too. That includes the co-moderators. Yes, they can help us when things get a bit sticky or provide some insight we may be overlooking, etc.. But, everyone is working on and sharing their stuff. To feel like you have to apologize for not responding or worry about others' possible hurt feelings only adds to an already incredibly difficult time.
Yes, there have been times when li'l one was expecting a response from some members and felt hurt when she didn't receive them. As part of my healing journey, Big Kid is slowly learning how to handle these hurt feelings. Some days I'm better at it than others. But, I'm learning not to take them as personally as I used to. No small feat, lemme tell ya!
Anyway, all that to say is those going through more of a trying time than usual at any time shouldn't feel the added pressure of whether or not to post for awhile. I, for one...okay, and li'l one too, will be here when you get back and will welcome you with open arms.
Thank you for taking the time to read.
The Kid and li'l one
