((((TAS)))) please don't go ...... please ... these are those ruptures you hear about in therapy ... please don't go.... i'm begging you

Tas, you need to stay as this is part of everyone's story and journey. These ruptures happen in real life, therapy and on forums like these! It is a usual thing and everything comes back to normal - you just have to wait it out. No need to act differently, just get on as before.

I am not my usual posting myself very recently and over the last few months as I have a life in turmoil and feel very exposed in writing anything - that has everything to do with me and nothing to do with anyone here or with any conflict.

I saw your posts over the past couple of days and wanted to comment and offer support - but I am having some major mental shit happening, moving houses (reluctantly), haven't seen my kids for 2 weeks as they are elsewhere and other stuff. I had a breakdown after my therapy this week and turned up again to see my T in a very distressed way - she was able to help. So nothing in my life is usual for me.

So I am telling you this to let you know that sometimes - it is unfortunate - but a few regular posters might have some crises happening right at the time as a conflict happens here and it seems related - but it isn't.

The solution is that all of us get back to our normal routine of posting, learn what we can from the issues and get back to supporting each other. Conflict is horrible and I and many others get triggered by it - but I learn so much from the brave people who face it and take the time to explain their positions. I was in awe of those members who did that. Just in awe.

Tas, you need to stay. And that is all there is to it!!!
Somedays

((TAS))
Please stay1.

I always look out for your threads because they reflect so many of the problems I have in therapy. I am just not brave enough to ask.
As RT says, don't forget those of us who had nothing to do with anything.
We will miss you!!
In the time I have been reading here I have seen a few of these conflicts blow up, but with a little time and consideration from everyone they have blown over and everybody has settled down again.
Nobody needs to leave!
It is just a difficult form of communication and easily misinterpretted.
Remember we are all in therapy because we have some kind of problem and for many of us social relationships and communication are a big part of that.

There are many of us here who really care about you, even those who have said something to upset you ,have done it from caring.

Hope you stay!

(((((TAS)))))

I wish you wouldn't go but I can understand how you feel. Good luck to you on your journey and hopefully you will come back to visit to let us know how you are doing.

Will miss you, TAS. I am so sorry things had to go this way.

TAS.

I wish you would stay. You will be missed for sure.


Blu

(((TAS)))
Please reconsider what you wish to do. Some of
us, myself included, find it hard not to tske
life events personally and think.it must be me
who is at fault. No-one is at fault for recent
happenings. I sincerely hope you decide to stay.
AV.

If it was anyone's fault, it must be mine as my account was suspended the day after CTL left. Either that, or my mistake(s) are unforgivable....


TAS,

I am really glad you realized sooner than later that this isn't the place for you. You are very kind, honest, sensitive, and intelligent. Not to mention strong and tenacious! I really enjoyed your posts, and was looking forward to reading about and talking to you about your journey. It really is a beautiful experience to watch an 'unresolved' and unique person like you blossom through the therapeutic relationship. Therapy will take you far, TAS.


xo Best wishes,

your account was suspended?!?!? huh???

WHAT??
((Irish girl))

Why was your account suspended?
Can some moderator please explain this to the rest of us!!

Hey TAS,
I'm not sure exactly what happened as I've been away from the forum for a bit. I just wanted to say I understand what you are feeling. I don't know if you remember when Couture Girl was on the forum briefly and had upset slot of people with her posts and questions. I let my own experiences and emotions get me so wrapped up in my responses that I ended up saying some things I wish I hadn't. I felt like I couldn't post openly after that and I felt like people were judging my every post. But that wasn't the case. And after the dust settled, everything was back to normal. Much like a rupture in therapy....it can be worked through. If you want to stay on the Forum, it can be worked t through. You obviously have allot of support here.

As you all know, I am a co-moderator on this board for some time now. I am the only one, aside from Room2Grow that are still active. I have only very limited privileges as to what I can do here.

I was asked, however, to post here that wishing (aka... IrishGirl) was banned from membership. If it is important to you to know the reason then please contact Shrinklady. I did not do the banning. I do not have that ability. I am only making the announcement as asked.

If anyone has further questions or wants further information about this they would need to PM Shrinklady. I would ask that you not post any comments regarding this announcement here. I will leave the thread open for those who want to wish TAS well but if there are posts other than on that topic I will lock the thread.

Thank you all for your understanding.

True North