Lizzygirl,
I would be happy to think that he thought of me while on vacation. That he brought something back for you. The fact that it's wine--well, maybe he thinks you will not want to drink it and save it since it came from him.

I guess I wouldn't read too much into it except to say that he thought of you while away. A good thing.

lizzygirl....I'll say it again...in my best childlike teenager napolean dynomite voice.................LUCKY! I know my T cares about me and my stuff, however, he holds about the tightest damn boundaries you could imagine and I can't even daydream about a possible gift becuase I know it will NEVER happen.....Now, in my best childlike teenager pouty voice....Not Fair! Hals

Hi Lizzygirl-

i`ve never reacived a gift from T, so i dunno much about what if feels like etc.Bet i would be a bit shocked and glad and felt weird about it as well. Allthough- its hard to tell what it "means" LG, without the whole context... Like; do you usually give each other gifts? What kind of therapist is your T? I bet he gave it only as a nice gesture. I would encourage you to bring it up with your T - ask him these question, because it seems like this gift has caused you allot of thinking... I am tempted to go for a T question to you: What do YOU think he meant by giving the wine? What do you want it to mean?

Hey Lizzygirl - I didn't answer your previous thread because I don't really know what to think about Ts and gifts. But I'd echo what Frog has just said - maybe it's a good thing for you to do, to ask yourself what it means to you, how it makes you feel, and maybe bring it up with T.

For what it's worth, my understanding of gifts in therapy is that it's not generally an accepted thing, but there's loads of people on here who give and receive gifts and tokens etc in therapy so I guess it all depends on what your T is like.

As for your being confused as to why he'd give you wine when there's some issue with your drinking, I'd see that as his having confidence in you (to NOT give you wine on the assumption that you'd immediately go off and guzzle it like some wino - would be infinitely more offensive!)

Does sound like you might want to talk to him though about how it's affecting you. I remember he seems to go off for quite long breaks regularly, maybe this is his way of reconnecting, of telling you you do matter?

All the best to you Lizzygirl

LL

Well this is tempting....should I ask if he has a couple of glasses tucked away in his office and to share a glass with me. Naughty me for having these thoughts.

FABULOUS idea!!!!

Hmmm… Well, I don’t know. It sounds like a nice gesture I think. He might have been thinking that the wine would make up for being on your case about drinking? In this situation all anyone can do is probably just make guesses. You could mention something like that you had a bit off the wine but you were careful not to drink too much because of the meds and see what he says?
-Mac