Hi someone,
Personally I feel like it could be a thoughtful thing to do for both of you in a sense. If you have atleast one more session before the final maybe you could ask her how she feels about receiving things first...my T wants to see me take risks since it is a problem for me. Although you may have those feelings a bit while she's gone it could also help you to maintain a connection, maybe?? I'm just thinking don't beat yourself up for expressing your feelings...it's a problem for me but not sure if it is for you. Just the way I would have to frame it for myself to help it be ok for me.

Hopeful

Uhhgg, now I just talked with her for a few min before our visit and I'm not feeling such nice things towards her... maybe I won't give her the thank you letter. I guess I'll see how the visit goes

someone... I do not think it would be any harm at all to give your T a small gift. It will help with the attachment and connection while she is on leave. You will know that she has something of yours to remind her of you. My T tells me he likes looking at the things I give him because they remind him of me. I hope you also will ask for a transitional object for yourself to hold onto so you remain connected.

Whatever you give her I think a note will also make her very happy. T's like us to step out of our comfort zones and risk a little in the relationship.

Let us know how it goes and what you decide.

TN

I think it would be a lovely thing to do.

Thanks for the support. She was very nice and reassuring during our visit. I asked her if I did happen to bring something for her if she'd want me to give it to her She said yes, and I did end up giving her the gift and thank you letter. She said the gift was perfect. She read the note too, but I'm not completely sure what she thought about it. I think it was ok, but I probably could have written a better one. She also gave me a transitional object and some homework.

I'm so glad you talked to your T, someone and that she said yes and that you could give her your gifts I remember the first time I felt safe enough to get my scary T a gift it was a really good moment. I'm glad she gave you a transitional object sound like it was so good!!

You're helping me not feel alone right now because I want to give my T something but... I gave her something so recently and really have no reason to give her this other thing so I feel like I can't. But your story is helping me think maybe I can just ask... who knows!

So glad this turned out well!