Oh wow. This post is my life right now.

I plan on ending it tomorrow with my T. So i will take on board what you have said about you acting in haste.

I am sure every T in the world who has had a long term T relationship would say that you aren't a failure and the strength is that you are able to ask for support when you need it.

hi, sparklewhizz. nice to have you here! i can relate with where you're coming from. i ended therapy at the end of november. probably prematurely. i know painfully well the missing your T part and not sure about ending at the right time. in retrospect i would have discussed quitting with T before making that decision myself, because i know i have more work to do but quite frankly alot of my problem is putting a name on what it is exactly that i need out of therapy. AND, like fighting the feeling like you said:

quote:

she will think I could have sorted things myself

and thus feeling quite selfl-indulgent about going to therapy.

anyway, i'm thinking about going back for a session or two or at least emailng T because there are a couple of questions i have (but i struggle with both becuase i don't want to seem needy, since i don't NEED to get an answer for the questions i have. i'm just curious more than anything.

Sparklewhizz, i think you're showing good self care by returning and i think if anything your T will be proud of you for that. good luck and let us know how it goes if you care to share.

oh, and

well I went and my T was lovely. She said she knew the ending was too sudden but I needed to see that for myself and that now we can work towards an ending that is right for me. Feel so relieved and also very grounded again after the session!

Glad you had a good return session

(((sparklewhizz)))

Sorry I didn't reply before your session. I'm glad your T was so accepting of your return (any good T would be) and that she let you find out on your own terms what you needed and ask for it (I always think that is hugely brave!).