Yes! I hope for her sake she doesn't have too many like me. I am frustrating her right now and I feel like she doesn't like seeing me because I've not made much progress on the eating disorder front.

I think this is partially why she does a lot of couples counseling too. That gives her a mix people to work with. It must be hard for T's to determine whether to take on a case or not. They can't know at the start which clients will be the neediest in the months to come.

Jillann

If T has even one other client like me, I am positive she would retire and take care of her grandchild. Two year olds are way more reasonable than me.

For some reason I assume all of T's clients are like me... But I know some aren't just by things she has said. She once said something like in her whole 30yrsntime she hasn't seen anyone work as hard as I have. Which I don't know how to take I gues. Sometimes I assume all Ts clients are just better people than me in general... So I guess if everyone was like me I'd worry she would be drained - she would be well loved though! My T has pretty strict boundaries on out of session contact - for all her clients, so even if everyone was like me she'd be safe!


Jillann - I'm always intrigued how Ts can't know what a case is and then I assume most keep it, right? My T doesn't specialize in EDs so she refered me to another T at the same time... I wonder when Ts can tell someone is going to be there a long time and what they ask themselves?

I've never thought about that - but I really hope they aren't like me. Regardless of how kind and gentle and patient she is - I secretly wonder if she's irritated and frustrated and needing a break from me.

If I dare consider it, I always think the other clients will be nicer, better, more relaxed, able to do the work faster, and generally less anoying than me

sb

I manage to think both that the other clients are: more deserving of help because having 'real problems' and better, nicer, funnier, more successful than I am.

Yes, my mind is so very logical, but very clear "they are more important/better than me in every way"

Interesting topic which I have never thought about. I think if half of T's clients were like me he would not learn much and become very frustrated,because he would have to be a great mind reader since I have such a hard time saying what I feel .

My T has told me she only ever sees a couple people with my diagnosis at a time. She says more than that would be too much... she balances it out with people who are dealing with less intense things.

Like many of you, I assume that my T's other clients are far more worthy of her time. I also think all the time that I must be the most annoying, frustrating, infuriating client she's seen in all of her 35 years as a trauma therapist. I think all of her other clients must be more easy going and make progress more easily.

But it helps me to know that she takes care of herself by balancing her caseload. When I can think that clearly, anyhow

I'm sure that if all T's clients were like me, she couldn't wait to get to work. Really. She would be so lucky.

And then she couldn't wait to get home.

JK

Actually, if all clients had been like me with oldT, I think she would have quit.

With currentT, I imagine she is awesome with everybody. Even if they're all like me.

-RT

Yes, I think many of us have often wondered about the other client's our T's see...wondered what their dilemmas are...I'm not one to talk very much, plus we do EMDR, so that can't be very exciting to look forward to. I value my sense of humor, but somehow it hasn't come out in the last 3 or 4 months. I smiled a couple weeks ago and he said, "Gosh, that's the first time I've seen you smile in a long time!" Of course, that made me feel bad, but, I know it's true. Guess I've been in an anxiety-fueled blue funk. It's cyclical and hard to get rid of. I'm sure many of you here can relate to that.

LJB

I don't think I am all that taxing to a therapist, so if other were like me, I imagine it would be a fairly easy day. I basically only require the woman to stay back.

I need my T to stay back too. It's something we have talked about a bit. I think she has done a fairly good job at meeting me where I am and not stepping too close, especially when I am feeling emotional. I'm not sure it's easy for her to keep doing that because I sense that she personally finds closeness easier to deal with than I do and would be more caring if I was comfortable with that.

I know my T has seen other clients with perfectionism issues - usually academics from the university, which reassures me as it means even the high flyers have to deal with it. Sometimes I think if she had clients that were all like me, she'd be bloody frustrated and quite bored! But I think that's my stuff talking since she has said she enjoys working with me.

OMG yes! I even said to him what if all your clients were like me? He didn't say anything. I have this huge issue of being a burden....

Oh gosh , I think my T will not handle many me, . My T does not like very much someone to depend on him.