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Ok I am a 23 year old male in his very first semester of college and last October I started to see a school counsiler to help me get set up with school.I really liked her and have taken most of her advice, like dropping Spanish 101 and her Stress Managment course to lighten my intense workload,I am taking 3 other courses and 2 of them are difficult.
She told me to see a therapist and I have since end of December,but I wanted to retain her because she deals with the school issues my therapist doesn't touch on.
I saw her for like 3 weeks in a row after winter-break ended and she worried me by saying she wanted to start meeting periodicly.I felt she was trying to phase me out,so I sent her several emails.I mentioned I saw her as a "mother-figure".
Finaly on Thursday, I saw her again,but she informed me that it was the last time we would meet because I made her feel"uncomfortable" and brought in one of the other counsilers who talked to me.I told him in front of her that I considered her like family.He left after a few minutes and we ended our final session as she walked me to the front and told the woman at the desk to set up an apointment with the other counsiler. I told her I would and I did.
I decided against it and called the counsiling department and canceled the next day. I can't go in that building ever again. I don't want to replace her and its bad enough I have to be reminded of her by walking past that building everyday I go to school.
I feel really depressed about this. Just for the record I was not in love with her,it is just that she and my therapist are the only two people I can talk to because I literaly dont have friends. Yes I have made aquaintences with many classmates,but we arent friends. The semester is only like a month old.
I miss her and don;t know what to do.I would appreciate(am I spelling that correctly?) any advice. Sorry if this was too long for you.
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I am sorry that happened to you. It sounds really painful. Unfortunately many school counselling centers are very understaffed and overwhelmed and can't give a lot of time to each person. As well, many of them aren't set up to do "real" therapy, just short-term counselling, and the counselors might not feel like they have training to do much else besides recommend specific classes or refer people to therapy.

At the same time it's lousy for you because it seems like you just need friends and people you can talk to, and she was someone you trusted and now you can't see her any more Frowner I guess you have to find out where to get other supportive contact, whether that means going back and seeing a different counselor, or seeing if there's some kind of therapy or support group you could join. I know it sucks since you would rather have stayed with the same person, but it doesn't look like they are giving you that choice Frowner
I actually saw her today the the enrolment center and freaked out a little. I went up to her and told her I would drop out of school because it was too uncomfortable of a situation and she told me to schedule and apointment with one of the other counsilers and I am still undecided on that.I am right in the middle of classes right now and I am really dealing with alot of depression and anxiety today. This whole situation just sucks.

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