yarg...somebody, say something- anything- I beg you! I can't stand seeing "blackbird" sitting there on the top of this thread every day.. I will delete soon...

How are you today?

I am interested in attachment theory, BB. Thanks so much for the recommendation. Hope I helped! I hate seeing my name too, but it's all over the place, so one more doesn't matter, right? (((BB)))

BB and Monte thanks for your comments on this book. Beebs... the comment on it being from a religious perspective sort of put me off of investigating this book.

Monte... thanks for the further clarification and for posting what you did about it. It seems to me that this is just points to what happens when there is attachment injury early in childhood. I fit into many of the categories and the cure... affirmation....

Wow... that is just what I get from my current T. And I do believe like you Monte... that this is truly the answer. My T tells me that his acceptance and care for me is unconditional. I KNOW spending time with him helps me to regulate my emotions and to feel calmer and more in control... and safer. I think those of us who have begun to feel better, stronger and more integrated are getting this kind of affirmation from our Ts.

Just my 2 cents.

TN

Thanks for posting that information about the book and the docs, Monte...good idea. I found it interesting to reread.

TN...sorry if the religious aspect was a turnoff. It's not presented in such a way that religion dominates the discussion, per se. It's more the concept of love and human connection, within the Christian understanding of that, that is presented I suppose. But anyone, Christian or otherwise, would be able to appreciate the value of the concepts. They aren't promulgating a specific point of view, besides that love and connection is important and valuable, as I remember. I think it is the same thing as attachment theory- I really do.

quote:

The Cure? …Affirmation!

Affirmation: When one person is the source of unconditional love and emotional strengthening for another person.

hugs,

BB

yarg....