I'll be back to comment tomorrow. I'm zapped tonight! Thanks for starting the thread BB!

Hi Beebs - i don't have the book - read some excerpts on line though and yes I think it could be good!!

xo M

I didn't get the book yet either. Have to wait until pauday- Friday.

I can't seem to put my thoughts together enough to post about it at present...sorry everybody. I'll get there.

Thanks, STRM. It seems that those of us who have suffered with certain injuries have so yearned for someone to listen to us and to "hear" us. Carl Rogers was the one who stressed the importance of listening to the client and letting that client know how much the T is listening by his expressions and body language. He felt this was very important. Having someone walk with you through everything is what we need because the first time we had to endure it alone.

It seems to me that the books that resonate with most of us, stress the relationship with the T and how important and essential it is to healing our wounds.

TN

I like this:

"Despair asks us to find meaning in the midst of apparent chaos or meaninglessness. Making meaning out of suffering is the basis for the human capacity to survive evil and transcend it."

"the purpose of these dark emotions (fear despair and grief) is evident when we can experience them mindfully, tolerate their intense energies, and let them be."

She talks a lot about our "emotion-phobic" culture that teaches us to suppress anything painful rather than just let it be. she says that this will "toxify" them. I find this idea really empowering. I tend to get sucked into my despair and expect the pain to just stop, or someone to make it stop- which keeps me really victimized to it, and dependent on others who may or may not be able to "make me feel better." I like the idea of being able to just let it be in me.

And yes- the idea of needing someone to hear and listen with us- that is so crucial to the whole thing.