So RT what's for breakfast this a m?
Arrgh! Mudd! I have to go to bed and sleep before I can start thinking about breakfast. -RT
Morning Peeps -
It is still morning someplace, isn't it?
Breakfast, Mudd, was a granola bar with a Diet Coke as I was running out the door to get over to my stepfather's (mom's) house to go through more stuff for the yard sale next weekend. Mom married this guy when she was 71 years old after being divorced for 25 years. He sold his house and got rid of his stuff and moved into Mom's house. So now he is living in what is my house with all of my mother's things. It's kind of a peculiar situation. Anyway, we've been going through things. Boxes and boxes of National Geographic magazines. Why is it that people can't throw those away? Stuff! Too much of it. What to keep and what to give away and what to sell?
Thought for today: Don't sweat the small stuff. And it's all small stuff.
Have a great day, y'all.
Red Tomato
It is still morning someplace, isn't it?
Breakfast, Mudd, was a granola bar with a Diet Coke as I was running out the door to get over to my stepfather's (mom's) house to go through more stuff for the yard sale next weekend. Mom married this guy when she was 71 years old after being divorced for 25 years. He sold his house and got rid of his stuff and moved into Mom's house. So now he is living in what is my house with all of my mother's things. It's kind of a peculiar situation. Anyway, we've been going through things. Boxes and boxes of National Geographic magazines. Why is it that people can't throw those away? Stuff! Too much of it. What to keep and what to give away and what to sell?
Thought for today: Don't sweat the small stuff. And it's all small stuff.
Have a great day, y'all.
Red Tomato
RT, I have had a few boxes of my mothers stuff in he front room since October of last year. Difficult to know what to do with it. I have lost both my brothers and of course some of their stuff is amongst it.
Ok u got to replace that soda w/ something else RT.
Asa magazines & such we're going into summer camp season & some places are looking for supplies. Nat'l Geo has beautiful pics.
Just a thought.
Cleaning out the house must be difficult to say the least.
Thinking of u RT!
mudd
Asa magazines & such we're going into summer camp season & some places are looking for supplies. Nat'l Geo has beautiful pics.
Just a thought.
Cleaning out the house must be difficult to say the least.
Thinking of u RT!
mudd
Morning Peeps!
Well, I was rousted out of bed and told to hurry get dressed as we were going out to breakfast. You know what's next: pancakes and Diet Coke. I really have to defend myself here. I do not drink, smoke or use recreational drugs. I don't drive fast, cheat on my taxes or litter. I don't gamble or over-eat (much
), and I am boringly monogamous. That said... I NEED MY DIET COKE! And them is fightin' words!
"Nothing so needs reforming as other people's habits." ~Mark Twain
Have a great day, y'all.
Red Tomato
Well, I was rousted out of bed and told to hurry get dressed as we were going out to breakfast. You know what's next: pancakes and Diet Coke. I really have to defend myself here. I do not drink, smoke or use recreational drugs. I don't drive fast, cheat on my taxes or litter. I don't gamble or over-eat (much
), and I am boringly monogamous. That said... I NEED MY DIET COKE! And them is fightin' words!"Nothing so needs reforming as other people's habits." ~Mark Twain
Have a great day, y'all.
Red Tomato
I am so with you RT. Start my day with diet coke every day!
Mentos and coke!!! Popps what an imagination.
Ok RT ill give you the diet Coke thing...since you sound like such a saint 
not even going to get into some of my bizarre eating habits & quirks. Don't want anyone getting sick on their laptop or anything 
not even going to get into some of my bizarre eating habits & quirks. Don't want anyone getting sick on their laptop or anything
Morning Peeps!
I am going to make this admission: my house is an absolute mess. It's the kind of mess where you're trying to clean things up...but it gets way worse before it gets better. I've been gradually moving files to another (smaller) file cabinet and in the process I have created piles of "important" papers that I'm not sure where to put.
For instance, I reluctantly tossed my notes for Human Biology and Database Design, but I couldn't throw away the paper from Research and Statistics because the teacher had written "Excellent Work!" At least that paper had words. I also can't bear to part with the flowchart from my Programming Logic course, because written on that paper is "Nice flowchart. This is how it should be done."
I won't even begin to tell you about sorting through the cancelled checks from the 70's and 80's that remind me of vacations and my first furniture purchases....
"Documents create a paper reality we call proof." ~Mason Cooley
Have a good day, y'all.
Red Tomato
P.S. I draw the line at Mentos!
I am going to make this admission: my house is an absolute mess. It's the kind of mess where you're trying to clean things up...but it gets way worse before it gets better. I've been gradually moving files to another (smaller) file cabinet and in the process I have created piles of "important" papers that I'm not sure where to put.
For instance, I reluctantly tossed my notes for Human Biology and Database Design, but I couldn't throw away the paper from Research and Statistics because the teacher had written "Excellent Work!" At least that paper had words. I also can't bear to part with the flowchart from my Programming Logic course, because written on that paper is "Nice flowchart. This is how it should be done."
I won't even begin to tell you about sorting through the cancelled checks from the 70's and 80's that remind me of vacations and my first furniture purchases....
"Documents create a paper reality we call proof." ~Mason Cooley
Have a good day, y'all.
Red Tomato
P.S. I draw the line at Mentos!
RT
One word....NeatWorks! Love it. Solved my H magazine hoarding problem.
Wish u the best of luck
One word....NeatWorks! Love it. Solved my H magazine hoarding problem.
Wish u the best of luck
Morning Peeps -
"I tried therapy. This had never appealed to me. For me, it was a bit like a Chinese meal: very filling at the time, but then an hour later you're hungry again." ~ Rod Stewart
Have a good day, y'all.
Red Tomato
"I tried therapy. This had never appealed to me. For me, it was a bit like a Chinese meal: very filling at the time, but then an hour later you're hungry again." ~ Rod Stewart
Have a good day, y'all.
Red Tomato
(((RT)))
What a great quote from Rod the Mod!! Love it!!
What a great quote from Rod the Mod!!
Love it!!
Oh so true RT !!
Luv that RT 
Morning Peeps!
I'm sitting at the kitchen computer, drinking a Diet Coke and gagging down my morning medications. No mentos, thank-you very much.
I stumbled upon a new word yesterday that I want to share with you all. "Tabstinent." It means being abstinent from your T. Refraining to indulge in your T. This would apply to those whose T is on vacation and out-of-touch. Also to those who don't contact their Ts between sessions. They are being Tabstinent.
(This is reminding me of that old soft drink, "Tab," that was Coke's first(?) sugar-free soda. When they came out with Diet Coke I thought, what the heck? Tab is Diet Coke. I know better now. Tab is not Diet Coke. Diet Coke is far superior. So I guess a secondary definition could be: refraining from drinking Tab. Are you thinking DietCoke-Stinent? Not going there!)
"Use, do not abuse; neither abstinence nor excess ever renders man happy." ~Voltaire
Have a good day, y'all.
Red Tomato
I'm sitting at the kitchen computer, drinking a Diet Coke and gagging down my morning medications. No mentos, thank-you very much.
I stumbled upon a new word yesterday that I want to share with you all. "Tabstinent." It means being abstinent from your T. Refraining to indulge in your T. This would apply to those whose T is on vacation and out-of-touch. Also to those who don't contact their Ts between sessions. They are being Tabstinent.
(This is reminding me of that old soft drink, "Tab," that was Coke's first(?) sugar-free soda. When they came out with Diet Coke I thought, what the heck? Tab is Diet Coke. I know better now. Tab is not Diet Coke. Diet Coke is far superior. So I guess a secondary definition could be: refraining from drinking Tab. Are you thinking DietCoke-Stinent? Not going there!)
"Use, do not abuse; neither abstinence nor excess ever renders man happy." ~Voltaire
Have a good day, y'all.
Red Tomato
Love this RT!! I am pretty Tabstinent with my main T (and good thing, too, because there is no way to email him or even leave a voice mail - you have to tell a staff member your message and she passes it to him, shudder). However I wonder if not needing to contact him is a sign that there is a problem with our therapeutic alliance?
Also I remember Tab, I learned to drink it in college (it was not easy), thank heaven for diet coke!
Also I remember Tab, I learned to drink it in college (it was not easy), thank heaven for diet coke!
Morning Peeps!
I am expecting to have a fantastic day today. Really, I am. I think Good Things are coming my way. Who knows, they may be on the way to visit you as well.
"I hope everyone that is reading this is having a really good day. And if you are not, just know that in every new minute that passes you have an opportunity to change that." ~Gillian Anderson
Have a good day, y'all.
Red Tomato
I am expecting to have a fantastic day today. Really, I am. I think Good Things are coming my way. Who knows, they may be on the way to visit you as well.
"I hope everyone that is reading this is having a really good day. And if you are not, just know that in every new minute that passes you have an opportunity to change that." ~Gillian Anderson
Have a good day, y'all.
Red Tomato
Morning Peeps!
Lots of people hurting today. Grief, sadness, anxiety, fear, anger. Today, lets all try to practice compassion - not just towards others, but especially towards ourselves. Start right now by taking your arms and crossing them over your chest. Give yourself a hug and say, "It's okay for me to be who I am and to feel the way I do."
Well, there. That was a little corny, but really, we need to be doing that every day.
"Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them, humanity cannot survive." -Dalai Lama
Have a good day y'all.
Red Tomato
Lots of people hurting today. Grief, sadness, anxiety, fear, anger. Today, lets all try to practice compassion - not just towards others, but especially towards ourselves. Start right now by taking your arms and crossing them over your chest. Give yourself a hug and say, "It's okay for me to be who I am and to feel the way I do."
Well, there. That was a little corny, but really, we need to be doing that every day.
"Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them, humanity cannot survive." -Dalai Lama
Have a good day y'all.
Red Tomato
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Morning Peeps!
Disappointment. Yes, sometimes it happens. I say that tongue in cheek, because I'm sure many of us have had it way more often than seems fair or even probable.
So what do we do with disappointment? I used to let it swallow me or crush me. Sometimes it still does. But I'm also learning that I must keep trying to get those needs or desires or goals met. What choice is there, really? To just give up? I don't want to give *them* the satisfaction of seeing me quit.
So hang on. Keep trying. Don't give up. Weather the disappointment and know that when the satisfaction comes, it will be twice as good as the disappointment felt bad. At least that's what I tell myself. That's why I keep on. You too, okay?
"The size of your success is measured by the strength of your desire; the size of your dream; and how you handle disappointment along the way." ~Robert Kiyosaki
Have a good day y'all.
Red Tomato
Disappointment. Yes, sometimes it happens. I say that tongue in cheek, because I'm sure many of us have had it way more often than seems fair or even probable.
So what do we do with disappointment? I used to let it swallow me or crush me. Sometimes it still does. But I'm also learning that I must keep trying to get those needs or desires or goals met. What choice is there, really? To just give up? I don't want to give *them* the satisfaction of seeing me quit.
So hang on. Keep trying. Don't give up. Weather the disappointment and know that when the satisfaction comes, it will be twice as good as the disappointment felt bad. At least that's what I tell myself. That's why I keep on. You too, okay?
"The size of your success is measured by the strength of your desire; the size of your dream; and how you handle disappointment along the way." ~Robert Kiyosaki
Have a good day y'all.
Red Tomato
Morning Peeps!
We've had monsoon weather here in the midwest (for those of us fortunate enough not to have been blown away) and my yard is a swamp. Nevertheless, I must get out and cut the grass, because MIL is coming this afternoon to survey the *estate* and my sweetie is intent on things "looking good." So I shall don my water wings, put pontoons on the mower and hope for the best.
"Everything will line up perfectly when knowing and living the truth becomes more important than looking good." ~Alan Cohen
Have a good day y'all.
Red Tomato
We've had monsoon weather here in the midwest (for those of us fortunate enough not to have been blown away) and my yard is a swamp. Nevertheless, I must get out and cut the grass, because MIL is coming this afternoon to survey the *estate* and my sweetie is intent on things "looking good." So I shall don my water wings, put pontoons on the mower and hope for the best.
"Everything will line up perfectly when knowing and living the truth becomes more important than looking good." ~Alan Cohen
Have a good day y'all.
Red Tomato
Morning Peeps!
It's the first Monday of June and that's supposed to be a fresh start, but I have this sense of folks not feeling so swell right now. Most of it seems related to various types of separation... vacation, death, disconnection.
What can we do to pull together, to strengthen our ties to one another here on the boards? Seems to me that empathy and understanding are a couple of things that help. Maybe today each of us can make an effort to communicate some of that - virtually and in real life. Empathy is a balm, and I think we can all use a little of that right now.
"Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around." ~Leo Buscaglia
Have a good day y'all.
Red Tomato
It's the first Monday of June and that's supposed to be a fresh start, but I have this sense of folks not feeling so swell right now. Most of it seems related to various types of separation... vacation, death, disconnection.
What can we do to pull together, to strengthen our ties to one another here on the boards? Seems to me that empathy and understanding are a couple of things that help. Maybe today each of us can make an effort to communicate some of that - virtually and in real life. Empathy is a balm, and I think we can all use a little of that right now.
"Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around." ~Leo Buscaglia
Have a good day y'all.
Red Tomato
quote:"Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around." ~Leo Buscaglia
Thanks RT. I'm hurting through death. Losing someone who was an attachment figure, close friend and inspiration is so hard. I wonder if there is anyone on here who has ever lost a T for reasons of death? They would understand this pain. Death is so final.
Your quote above was written on a card I gave my T. He loved it so much it's been displayed on his bookshelf for almost a year now.
TN
Morning Peeps!
Not feeling real swell myself this morning. Feeling hugely rejected and a lot of sadness and grief.
The only quote I could find that really embraces what I'm feeling this morning is by Sylvia Plath. So I'm not including it here.
Have a good day y'all.
Red Tomato
Not feeling real swell myself this morning. Feeling hugely rejected and a lot of sadness and grief.
The only quote I could find that really embraces what I'm feeling this morning is by Sylvia Plath. So I'm not including it here.
Have a good day y'all.
Red Tomato
RT - I thinking about you. Are you going to let us know what happened? I've been looking forward to your morning quotes each day. I'm just worried about you.
Jillann
Jillann
Hey RT,
Yes, Just saying Sylvia Plath gives an impression of how you are. Reach out.....
Yes, Just saying Sylvia Plath gives an impression of how you are. Reach out.....
we can take it (((((RT)))))
how are you doing?
how are you doing?
but i don't think i can take hearing what you all will say after i tell you.... -RT
Ah RT you (i'm certain) will be surprised. This is a very accepting community and remember most of us are terrified of rejection so we know how to be gentle and accepting. But only if and when you're ready xx
ge - perhaps you did not follow my thread "you failed me" ... I was certainly told how wrong I was about things. it doesn't feel good to be judged on a fraction of the story. no, I got way too vulnerable on that one and all of this is related. my skin's just not thick enough. -rt
RT I have briefly gone back over the thread (and its quite long so forgive me if I miss something important or say something silly). I'm not clear whether you're seeing a new T or still with the T you describe in that thread.
When you've been abandoned, abused, deprived, neglected and exploited as a child, adult boundaries are very very hard to deal with. If your T is decent and competent, she will keep working with you within her limits and boundaries. Its up to you to decide whether you can live with those limits and boundaries. All relationships have boundaries around them, it's just not as obvious as the one's around a T relationship.
It sounds like you're in a lot of pain and very scared and ashamed. IMHO therapy is absolutely worth the effort, but the changes and benefits in your day to day life come through very, very slowly. But isn't that better than living in pain, fear and grief for the rest of your life?
Just remember you are a good and decent person and deserve good things in your life. There are lots of good people in the world. The suggestions made by people here are suggestions and its up to you whether you take it on board or not.
When you've been abandoned, abused, deprived, neglected and exploited as a child, adult boundaries are very very hard to deal with. If your T is decent and competent, she will keep working with you within her limits and boundaries. Its up to you to decide whether you can live with those limits and boundaries. All relationships have boundaries around them, it's just not as obvious as the one's around a T relationship.
It sounds like you're in a lot of pain and very scared and ashamed. IMHO therapy is absolutely worth the effort, but the changes and benefits in your day to day life come through very, very slowly. But isn't that better than living in pain, fear and grief for the rest of your life?
Just remember you are a good and decent person and deserve good things in your life. There are lots of good people in the world. The suggestions made by people here are suggestions and its up to you whether you take it on board or not.
How you doing today RT.
Morning Peeps!
A glass of milk with my buproprion, effexor and granola bar this morning. I'm afraid Diet Coke would be a bit rough on my stomach right now.
My sweetie is taking her MIL to chemo this afternoon and then to dinner, so it will be late before there's another human in the house. The day stretches out long before me.
"Waking up this morning, I smile,
Twenty four brand new hours are before me.
I vow to live fully in each moment
and to look at all beings with eyes of compassion."
~Thich Nhat Hanh
Have a good day y'all.
Red Tomato
A glass of milk with my buproprion, effexor and granola bar this morning. I'm afraid Diet Coke would be a bit rough on my stomach right now.
My sweetie is taking her MIL to chemo this afternoon and then to dinner, so it will be late before there's another human in the house. The day stretches out long before me.
"Waking up this morning, I smile,
Twenty four brand new hours are before me.
I vow to live fully in each moment
and to look at all beings with eyes of compassion."
~Thich Nhat Hanh
Have a good day y'all.
Red Tomato
Morning Peeps!
I have a confession. Maybe more than one. Can I trust you guys?
If I didn't have to pee, there are some mornings when I would never get out of bed.
If I didn't have to go somewhere, I might never change out of my pajamas.
If I didn't have to see somebody (somebody I know), I might never take a shower.
If I didn't have dogs, I wouldn't have any purpose in my day.
If I didn't have a partner, I would wander aimlessly.
If I never had company, I might never clean my house.
If I never wore shorts, I would never shave my legs.
Have a good day y'all.
Red Tomato
P.S. - There's a cute thread in the Chit Chat forum called The Things Kids Say. Check it out and add your own story - just for fun!
I have a confession. Maybe more than one. Can I trust you guys?
If I didn't have to pee, there are some mornings when I would never get out of bed.
If I didn't have to go somewhere, I might never change out of my pajamas.
If I didn't have to see somebody (somebody I know), I might never take a shower.
If I didn't have dogs, I wouldn't have any purpose in my day.
If I didn't have a partner, I would wander aimlessly.
If I never had company, I might never clean my house.
If I never wore shorts, I would never shave my legs.
quote:"Psychoanalysis is the confession without absolution." ~Germaine Greer
"Confession is good for the soul only in the sense that a tweed coat is good for dandruff - it is a palliative rather than a remedy." ~Peter De Vries
Have a good day y'all.
Red Tomato
P.S. - There's a cute thread in the Chit Chat forum called The Things Kids Say. Check it out and add your own story - just for fun!
Morning Peeps!
Angel Food Cake and Diet Coke for breakfast! Mmmmm... breakfast of champions. Zumba champions!
Tomorrow is my Annual "I'm Never Having Another Yard Sale" Yard Sale. If you're in the area, please stop by and spend a quarter or two!
For Sale: Parachute. Only used once, never opened, small stain.
Therapy is like a garage sale. From a distance, it looks like a lot of interesting stuff, but up close you realize it's a lot of shit.
Have a good day y'all.
Red Tomato
Angel Food Cake and Diet Coke for breakfast! Mmmmm... breakfast of champions. Zumba champions!
Tomorrow is my Annual "I'm Never Having Another Yard Sale" Yard Sale. If you're in the area, please stop by and spend a quarter or two!
For Sale: Parachute. Only used once, never opened, small stain.
Therapy is like a garage sale. From a distance, it looks like a lot of interesting stuff, but up close you realize it's a lot of shit.
Have a good day y'all.
Red Tomato
Omg the yard stuff/ shit lines had me laughing out loud
I'll give the parachutea miss too if you don't mind!!