Hi, katy, and welcome!

You could probably post just about anywhere here on transference, on an old thread (as I see you did) or even create your own so we can all get to know you better. A lot of people here have worked at trying to come to terms with this baffling experience, myself included. I hope this forum helps you to do so like it has helped me!

hi katy, i am new here too. your comment about transference brought back to me when i heard/saw/felt/smelled my family of origin (foo) in my t. my t became all of my relations. scared the bejesus out of me. i feel agitated and i feel fearful. the healing takes as long as it takes.

thanks for your responses.
I did read some of the other posts on transference.
It scares me a lot. I've been suicidal at times about it because it's so heartbreaking.
Strange I would feel that way because I don't want to go home with her but the thought of her being so kind and affectionate with her daughter just rips me apart. It's a good thing she's like that. I think she's probably an amazing mother.
But it hurts me so much. Why?
I really have to fight this because it is stopping me from doing things. I don't like to go away for fear she won't be here when I get back. I'm afraid to upset her.
I'll never tell her these things for fear she will reject me or increase the "boundaries" which don't need increasing and would really feel like rejection.
I feel crazy