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Kashly,
Thank you for saying hi, it's good to hear from you, although I'm sorry things are so hard. Therapy can be really hard work and take up so much of our energy, that living our lives can be such a challenge. And you have been doing some really difficult work lately, I find it totally understandable that you are struggling right now. When I was your age, I was still doing recreational drugs to stave off the pain and was years away from therapy. You have my deep respect and admiration that you are dealing with this now.
I don't have a lot of good advice, but I read something once in a book about mindfulness that I found helpful which was to take a block of time, say 15 mins or a half an hour and just let loose. Let the feelings roll in without fighting them, let the tears come, let it get as intense as you can stand while staying safe. At the end of the time, you can say to yourself, enough for now, I know those are my feelings but it's ok to put them aside for awhile so I can get some things done. I have used it with varying degrees of success and offer it now in case it something that works for you.
And Kashley, you're not using anyone. You need support right now and it's ok to get it. There will come a time when you will be able to give again. And all of us come here voluntarily and are not forced to either read or post. The support is a gift and freely given. Don't add undeserved guilt to the burden you're already carrying.
(((Kashley)))
love, AG
Thank you for saying hi, it's good to hear from you, although I'm sorry things are so hard. Therapy can be really hard work and take up so much of our energy, that living our lives can be such a challenge. And you have been doing some really difficult work lately, I find it totally understandable that you are struggling right now. When I was your age, I was still doing recreational drugs to stave off the pain and was years away from therapy. You have my deep respect and admiration that you are dealing with this now.
I don't have a lot of good advice, but I read something once in a book about mindfulness that I found helpful which was to take a block of time, say 15 mins or a half an hour and just let loose. Let the feelings roll in without fighting them, let the tears come, let it get as intense as you can stand while staying safe. At the end of the time, you can say to yourself, enough for now, I know those are my feelings but it's ok to put them aside for awhile so I can get some things done. I have used it with varying degrees of success and offer it now in case it something that works for you.
And Kashley, you're not using anyone. You need support right now and it's ok to get it. There will come a time when you will be able to give again. And all of us come here voluntarily and are not forced to either read or post. The support is a gift and freely given. Don't add undeserved guilt to the burden you're already carrying.
(((Kashley)))
love, AG
Kashley - good luck on your tests.
Kashley,
I'm so glad to see you post. I was just about to post a message asking where you were! I'm sorry everything is so hard right now. You are doing such difficult work and adding onto it by being in school would be really hard. I can't imagine trying to focus on exams right now. I agree with what AG said, trying to break things into small chunks. Maybe let loose for 15 minutes and then study for 15 mins. Good luck on your exams. (((hugs)))
I'm so glad to see you post. I was just about to post a message asking where you were! I'm sorry everything is so hard right now. You are doing such difficult work and adding onto it by being in school would be really hard. I can't imagine trying to focus on exams right now. I agree with what AG said, trying to break things into small chunks. Maybe let loose for 15 minutes and then study for 15 mins. Good luck on your exams. (((hugs)))
Thank you all...you are so wonderful. It did help me get started after I posted and I really appreciate all of your responses, but I really want to delete now. Not because of any of you. Just my stuff. I hope it won't offend anyone if I do. I'm just not good at handling this much feeling.
No offence at all dear kashley, you just take good care of you please. We are here whenever you need some support (((((kashley)))))
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