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hiding the fact that I have been in tears

J janedoeMember
ok, so this is a little embarassing but I'm running into a problem I am wondering if anyone else has dealt with. Sometimes, I will cry at the drop of a hat. (Sometimes I just don't cry at all no matter what happens.) This morning, the tears came and lasted for long enough that I look like I have been crying. I have to head off to work, so I googled how to try to make it go away. I'm now lying on the floor with ice on my eyes, hoping maybe this will work. Anyone else deal with this? I feel almost silly doing this. ugh.
~jd

(p.s. I'm ok-ish. Just a rough morning.)
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blackbirdblackbirdMember
Aw, Jane. (((((JD))))))I'm sorry you have been so sad this morning.

I have this problem. For long time I never cried before I was in therapy. Now I cry constantly. I usually wake up crying. My kids and h are kinda used to it, but when I have to see others it is a problem. I usually lie and say that I am really really tired. Frowner But that is often true, too, soooo...
yakusokuyakusokuMember
I will tear up, but I can only cry a lot if:

1. Someone is holding me, which only H does, so only with H.
2. I am very moved by empathy (very sad movies, stories, sometimes posts on here, someone crying while telling a moving story at church).

I started crying in session last night and all it was was tears welling up and then I reflexively stuffed it back down. Frowner

Luckily, I don't go to work at an office anymore, so I don't worry if I look weepy. You can always say you're sick or had allergies or something. People may know you're lying, but they won't ask. Wink
mayflowermayflowerMember
I'm sorry to hear you're sad, Jane. Contrary to others here (maybe I'm just weird), I will wash my face with water as hot as I can stand it. In my opinion, cooling blocks circulation whereas heat supports it. So, while for a minute or two my face will look even worse, this usually results in me daring to look up and not wear sunglasses.. ;-)(after a bit of make-up, or course!)

hope you're feeling better.. ((Jane))
scaredtoriskmyselfscaredtoriskmyselfCo-moderator
(((Jane)))

I'm sorry you are feeling so sad. Can I ask you a question though? Why do you need to hide it? Is it that it would be completely unacceptable for someone at your work to know you had been crying? I'm not trying to be dense here, but I just wondered if it would be okay to just let it be and let you be the way you are/were this morning.

Anyway, I am sorry to hear that you are having a hard time and I hope that you are feeling better this afternoon.

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