Hi Everyone, I'm really struggling and in a lot of pain. Pain from attachment issues and not being able to get my needs met. As many of you know it is a very tough road.

I've been doing a lot of work in this area, and trying really hard to take care of the inner child, having compassion for her, etc. Talking to her, tending to her and so forth.

I'm in tremendous pain. I've discussed this with T. T. knows how bad I'm struggling.

My question for you is... how much pain is too much in therapy? And, what does that mean? I guess I'm wondering if we are going too fast, or do I need different support, or additional type of therapy, group support.

Then in asking that question, maybe I'm still just trying to find some sort of way of getting my inner child needs met. Like my T. can't or won't give it to me, then maybe I need unconsciously to find another way. I'm not sure.

What I do know is that the pain is excruciating. My T knows this. She's been helpful, but it's not changing. It's so bad that I'm having some very negative thought patterns, today feel empty, done. Done, like I can't do this work anymore. I can't do therapy anymore because it is too painful.

1. So, how much pain is too much?
2. How do I get through this? My coping skills are not working.

Please help me.