Little me is too scared to have my affection rejected yet again by a parent figure!!! I think I wouldn't be able to go back if T said no.

Can't someone just telepathically suggest to T that he give me a hug instead? That would work much better for me.

Please notify me when we get closer to "Move in with your Therapist" week. Thanks.

When is get adopted by your therapist week? Isn't it in May?

CNC - With our luck, it falls on April Fools Day. Can't our Ts tell what great kids we'd make? I will totally clean my room every day, I promise!

I don't want to traumatize the poor guy!

Oh guys, thank you for making me laugh and smile this morning, this is so good.

I think I can comply with this.

Hi,

I am very fortunate in that my T always gives me a great tight hug after each session and at times a warm welcome hug. I really do love her hugs.

STRM - not THOSE sort of hugs LOL

More than a hug, I just wish T would put his arm around my shoulder while we talked or a hand on my shoulder while we pray. I just want him to ground me. I need to be "plugged in" somewhere. And if I am ever even capable of crying in front of him, be better dang well come and hold me!!! I doubt he will, but that's how I feel.

quote:

Originally posted by Sadly:
STRM - not THOSE sort of hugs LOL

Add me to the confused list here. What do you mean?

LG & CNC, you guys are FUNNY!!!!

I don't think I'd want my T to hug me. I feel hideous. ~D.

quote:

Originally posted by Draggers:
...i do wonder though if you can have maternal transference with more than one person at any one time? Hmmmm

Draggers, I'm quite confident I could pull multi-mommies off without much problem.

Happy also to report that I have hugged and been hugged this week.

I usually only do one father figure at a time, but if that person starts pulling away, my transference passes to another person. Up until now, I have pretty much just closed off anytime I start feeling this "neediness" and dependence, so I don't know for sure if I could have more than one at a time.

I'd love to give her a hug. Although it'd probably freak me out, too... oh boy, thinking about it makes me smile..

STRM: must be my british humour

you posted

quote:

I think I can comply with this. Wink


STRM

and the wink in British Humour would be more of a nudge nudge wink wink know what I mean sort of wink.

so I was teasing you back and in British Humour usually the responce to my remark
"not THOSE sort of hugs"
would have been something like:
"LOL"

but all I got was


oh well, never mind. It is hard isn't it doing it all by typing with no tone or inflection or facial expression.

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Originally posted by deepfried:

quote:

but all I got was

I know I gave that response (confused) because as far as I know STRM would not give a wink wink nudge nudge kind of hug to her T. I think her wink more represented... "I really like to hug my T, so this will be totally easy for me". A non-sexualized teasing.... so, that's why I was confused. It is definitely hard communicating without being face to face (and even then... it isn't easy).

That is exactly what I meant by the wink. I already (or someone inside) pretty much hugs my T every time we see her so I meant that it wouldn't be hard to comply with "Hug your T week" since it is already something I do. I definitely did not mean it in any sort of inappropriate way. Ick.

I think it is sometimes hard to communicate in writing and then when you add cultural differences to that it can get really confusing. Thanks for clarifying Sadly.

That is so nice Sarah. So proud of you for being so brave!

Our littles had lots of cuddle time with our T yesterday as well.

STRMS and Draggers- I'm so glad you got some nice cuddle time with your T's. My children love to be cuddled and hugged. Sometimes my little boy comes up to me and just says "Mama cuddle time." It is SOOOO nice for me, too. I love to cuddle him, and my girl too.

Love,

Beebs

After yesterday's session sweetP stood infront of the door as I tried to leave, just standing there.I think he was trying to pluck up the courage to give me a hug.I just looked down and waited for him to move. Who knows. The saga continues.
sigh.

Awww, Sadly. Maybe you could write and ask him about it. What it made you think, but you were afraid of misinterpreting things? That might be a bit scary, I know. I keep saying how I want T to come sit with me and put an arm around me or give me a hug, but in the end, if he went 99.99% of the way and expected me to be the one to initiate it, I'm not sure I could. That .01% chance of rejection feels like a thousand tons crushing me.