(((((((((( Frosty )))))))))

It's all so very confusing for you right now, and I'm really sorry about everything you're having to deal with.

For what it's worth, I get the feeling of having been lied to by your T - I've had that a couple of times with Ts I've seen, where they've turned around and said they couldn't help me, and I just KNEW it was because they didn't want the hassle, that I was a 'difficult' client, that they felt they were putting more effort into the therapy than the gains to them were worth (sadly Ts - or at least some - do measure their willingness to work with a client based on what they get out of it, or in terms of how incompetent they are being made to feel...) Which is not to say that that's what your T is doing, just that I understand the feeling of having been lied to...

Correct me if I'm wrong, but from the way you are describing the insurance set up, it sounds as if you will be able to get more sessions with a T than the amount current T has told you about? In that case, would it be worth your while discussing this again with consult T, or even asking her for a referral? I suppose more to the point, do you still want to stay in therapy? From your posts on here I've gathered the impression that you have been working really hard and putting a LOT of effort and thought into your therapy, only to have been more or less obstructed in your healing by T rather than helped, so maybe for now you are 'off' the idea of therapy...

All the best with this Frosty, you so deserve a T who can help you.

LL

It sounds like you have a plan, and I'm so impressed by how you're working through all of this and navigating it. Maybe have an idea of what you're looking for in a T before you begin looking and then, if it doesn't feel right a few sessions in, would your insurance allow you to try to find another? We are, very unfortunately, fully out of pocket right now, so on the chance that I really wanted to blow off my T and find another, it really would be completely up to me...which is nice, but at the same time, we're starting to pile up a lot of debt as a result.

It is your therapy. You know what you are ready for and I would really doubt a successful outcome of something that you feel forced into. When you are ready to deal with your phobias, you will.

It seems reasonable to me to see your T until you find another if you both agree on that and she can work with you to give you some of what you need right now. It may relieve the pressure to find someone immediately and lessen the possibility of settling for someone you wouldn't otherwise consider a good fit.
sea

Hey frosty
I would certainly discuss with currentT - make certain that you don't and can't fit together - then maybe enlist her aid in finding other Ts and transition across - more than likely you'll have to wait to get an appt!!

Somehow, it will sort out!
xo M

Thinking of you....((((Frosty)))

BB

Yeah, it's nice to have the option, even if you decide something else works better for you. Totally, share the list! I haven't been on the forums as much lately (taking care of me), so PM me if I don't respond, so I can make sure to check it out!