When I started up with my T again, I decided to check him out, more, online. His facebook page popped up and I thought it was really odd he had one. It was back when only college aged kids used FB, and also before most people were saavy enough to understand the privacy protections, him included. He has since enabled the correct privacy protectors and told me he only started a page because a friend's daughter wanted to "friend" him. I'm not a fan of FB, but do have a page. I am very private about myself...big trust issues. He does not know that I saw his page. The thing is, I remembered one of his friend's name and am able to access his page through her page. I know way more than I should about his life; what his wife looks like. All about his kids, relatives, friends.....LOTS of stuff (he discloses carefully). It actually makes me feel close to him, because I can see a big picture of him whenever I want...hugging his wife...wishing it was me in her place, (i know, i know). I know a bunch of stuff about his kids. I do not see a constant feed of comments or messages. I am never going to tell him about this, EVER! I do feel bad/strange about this too. I am wondering if this is coloring our theraputic alliance. As clients we are not supposed to know much about the therapist. He and I have a very close/unique/professional relationship and he is aware I need constant contact and he is really good about being available. I am so envious, but very heart-warmed about how loving and close he is with his family. I wish I was part of it. The way social media has exploded and not much is "private" anymore has created lots of different issues in many arenas. I would appreciate any constructive thoughts about this. This is the first time I am disclosing this, on a giant, public forum no less and, I am mortified!!