Okay, a little background. I've never discussed this with T but the sense I get of myself is that I don't express positive feelings for people when I genuinely feel them. So, I've been trying to do that and not find it threatening.
I've been feeling good about T and thought I'd buy him a little token Christmas present. I LOVE ornaments and found one with HOPE written on it. My T tells me there is always hope. So I thought it was very appropriate. I didn't think anything else until the day I was giving it to him. I worried that he didn't have a Christmas tree. He's half Jewish and half Catholic but says he celebrates everything. Then I thought it would be wierd for him to bring an ornament home to his house from a client. Then I thought he'd think I was trying to get into his house and become part of his life.
Then, I decided this was all very ridiculous because I hadn't even thought that far in my thoughts. It was just a simple token gift. So I gave it to him and all he said was, this is not necessary. I was hoping he'd open the gift while I was there but he didn't. He had a client waiting and we were running over.
My next appointment was after the holidays. We were talking about some deep emotional stuff. And suddenly, I spotted the ornament hanging from some kind of hook to the left of his head. I often gave over there when I am talking to him because he has a bookshelf there. Anyway, so many thoughts ran through my head when I saw that ornament that I lost my train of thought for a very obviously long time. And since he knows where he hung the ornament, he had to have known that I spotted it and had some kind of emotional reaction but he didn't say anything. He just let me regain my composure.
And, what I thought was, how stupid of me to give him that dumb ornament. And, of course, he wouldn't want it in his house.
When I went to go leave, he said, oh look, I hung your ornament there to radiate HOPE throughout the room. And I just shook my head yes and left.
And, now I have to look at that dumb ornament every f**king session - which will remind me of what an idiot i was to give it to him. And, then what if it disappears? I'll think he really hates me.
There is a big plant behind my head and I thought I could ask him to move it there so I don't have to look at it.
All this anxiety over a stupid ornament!!! AGGGHHHH!!!!