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I HATE this F'ing Snow!!

True NorthTrue NorthCo-moderator
I am SO sick of this winter weather. We had another 8 inches today and of course... it's MONDAY. My session day. Schools closed. DH is also home and so am I. I could see NO way to get to see T although I was willing to try to get there.

I texted him and he called me and said that yes he was in his office but that I should not be. He told me that the roads are really bad and that most of his patients have cancelled. I told him I could try to come because I really needed to see him but he said that he didn't want me getting hurt or in an accident. I guess that was a good thing. I mean that he cares. Not sure because my mind is telling me that he really didn't want to see me anyway because we had such a bad session last Thursday and I just want to cry thinking of it.

I asked him about rescheduling and he reminded me that I'm in for Thursday... but I meant before that because getting to Thursday is going to be difficult. We had a very rocky session on Thursday last week and this weekend was really bad for me with extreme anxiety and panic. I'm trying to keep it under control but the weather is not helping with that either.

I asked T if I don't come can we speak on the phone and he said no. I was a bit surprised but then he said if you don't come I'm going home. So I told him that was fine and I wished he would go home before it got worse. He then offered to call me from the road but I said "no way, I'm not going to be to blame if you get hurt. no driving and talking. And yes, this is me taking care of you for a change." He laughed and said "fair enough". Then he said if I'm not doing well I could call him between patients tomorrow.

When we hung up I just felt like I wanted to cry. The emptiness was so strong. I had looked forward to seeing him today to try to mend things from last week and to tell him why. I feel like I'm being punished in a way. Not by him but by the fates. I was also worried about him getting home safely. He has normally a half hour drive. Today it will take much longer.

I could email him tonight but I don't even know what to say. I felt so sad I didn't even bother to get dressed today and I don't feel like doing anything. Spring cannot get here soon enough.

TN
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exploringexploringMember
So sorry, TN. I've gone in before to find my therapist had cancelled and I hadn't gotten the message. It's so hard when you really need that session not to have it! I wish that this hadn't happened to you, and especially that it hadn't happened after a difficult session.

My husband spells stupid "stoopid" when he is especially protesting something.

Stoopid snow.
True NorthTrue NorthCo-moderator
Thank you SB. Welcome to the forum. Not sure we ever "spoke".

I truly realize in the scheme of things... waiting a few days is not a big deal. So many here wait so long to see their T's even on a regular basis. I really have not reason to complain. It's just that it seems urgent this time and I'm impatient. And I miss him. There are times I'm fine with waiting. It's just this darn anxiety that can be crippling at times, making me want to curl up into a ball and hide.

Thanks for your support
TN
exploringexploringMember
TN--one time a loved one of mine was in a serious accident, and I had to provide continual care. People would apologize if they ever brought up their own struggles, because they perceived mine as worse. I answered, "A skinned knee hurts--a lot!" Struggles that others have do not invalidate your own challenges. It IS a long time until Thursday when you really need that session.

Thank you for sharing--I enjoy reading your posts and hearing your insight. Thursday is coming.
True NorthTrue NorthCo-moderator
T sent me a text tonight asking if I wanted to see him on Friday. He never works on Friday but added this to his schedule because of all the cancellations today. So I will see him Thursday and Friday. I said yes I would like to see him and he responded "great". It wasn't a long communication but the contact and the offer really helped me to feel more calm. Now I just have to get through an ice storm until Thursday!

Please may the sun shine soon!
TN
lucylucyMember
I'm glad you're still able to get both of your sessions in this week - but I am sorry you're going to have to wait after waiting so long after a difficult session. Hug two

Is he still open to you contacting him in between patients tomorrow if you're struggling?

We have lots of snow here too - but I LOVE it. The cold, though, I don't love so much.
True NorthTrue NorthCo-moderator
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Is he still open to you contacting him in between patients tomorrow if you're struggling?


Hi Lucy... I am fortunate in that my T is always open for me to contact him either by email or phone between sessions. I try not to take advantage of that option unless I really have to. He is always generous with his time. I am doing okay now. Getting a text from him last night really helped and knowing I will see him both Thursday and Friday feels good.

Now I just have to work out what I want to say to him about our last session. I think he needs to know that the child and the rebel teenager sort of took over the session. Mostly the teen. She is angry and sulky and gave him a hard time. I'm sure he will be very open to listening to me about this.

Thanks everyone for the support
TN
True NorthTrue NorthCo-moderator
Okay... well we are in for another huge snowstorm. I feel like I live in Siberia. We still have piles of snow from last week. Of course it's also coming on my therapy day. Roll Eyes

But this time I got a sweet text from T asking me if I'd like to move my session to Friday if we have the predicted snow tomorrow. Of course I said yes. So it's booked and I don't have to be anxious tonight and tomorrow morning wondering what to do and trying to get to see T.

He takes care of me really well and that a priceless feeling.

Be safe all who are in the storm's path.

TN

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