Blocked you how? Not sure I understand what you mean.

He emailed me this morning, saying a bunch of stuff about my emailing angst. It felt like he was saying everything was all my fault, but I can't tell. I wrote back quickly before I would chicken out and fester, saying that I felt he was balming me, and quoting things he said in past that had casued me confusion on the issue. I got the mail back. It was marked blocked, junk mail, rejected, giving up by the administrator. I wrote back to T asking if it was really true.siad I thought it was agressive of him to block me. He never responded yet. I am really scared.

(((((bb)))))
was the second email bounced back too?

No. but if he marked my mails as "spam" they might get through and just go into a spam folder for future deletion.

Yeah, if the second email wasn't also blocked, maybe something in your email set off some sort of filter. (((((((((BB)))))))))) I can't imagine T would block you without directly saying he didn't want email first.

really?

it's just weird because the conversation was about me not emailing. it's never happened before.

It comes through that you believe he cares and has good intentions toward wanting to help you, even if he doesn't seem to "get" it all the time. He tells you directly things you don't want to hear (like to focus on your marital counseling). This is a question for you, because I've never directly interacted with your T...but would it be consistent with your T's behavior to be indirect, passive-aggressive, and avoidant rather than directly address an issue? If not, it was probably a mistake.

spam is usually silently blocked the first and every time - usually - unless he tweaked the filter or something in some really super involved way. If (and a big IF) he did do that, it would feel really agressive to me too - like passive agressive. Not direct. Hurtful. He doesn't sound like he's been that way in the past.

I don't think your hurt and pain over the email stuff is at all your fault. If he is dealing with all of this by blocking you without warning, that is just crummy and wrong. However, he may not be... and I know that waiting to find out for sure is hard... Does the possibility that he blocked you feel scary because it feels possibly like he might be abandoning you in some way? He's still there.

I'm so sorry this happened. hang in there sweetie. You deserve lots of kindness.

hugs,
~ jane

What email provider does he use?

He's not like this. But if he did it, then he is definitely trying to be rid of me.

I don't knwo what his email provider is. on mine you can mark anything "spam" and it will just get re-directed to a trash folder.
yeah. trash. I think I could get used to identifying with that again. Maybe that's why part of me feels "ok."

what was the exact wording on the returned email to you?

BB,
You are NOT trash. ((((((((hugs)))))))))

s'ok. he wrote back and said he has no clue what I'm talking about. phew that is a relief. I was totally convinced he did it on purpose, due to the coincidental anture of the content. it's ok. just a little freakout there. gotta go. thanks you

it said does not like recipient. Junkmail rejected.Blocked rejected with a bunch of numbers in between.just a mistake tho.

BB,

So glad it turned out to be an accident. What horrible timing! But so glad you heard back quickly from him.

YAY!!! so glad it was a mistake

So glad, BB. I assumed that was the case! So much easier to see from the outside than from the inside, though.

I tried to write back to say sorry for doubting him, but my mail will no longer go through. Hope he isn't mad. He sounded mad. At least I heard back that he didn't do on purpose. I can't help wondering though, it is very coincidental isn't it?

Yeah. Like the time I recounted a dream about an ex-Pastor (also friend of T's) to T and in less than 24-hours that Pastor accepted my friend request on Facebook after ignoring it over 1.5 months. Just coincidence, but maddening! He might be frustrated, but I'm sure he's not angry. T's get this projection stuff all the time. I'm sure it's par for the course and they don't take it "personally," or else they redirect themselves away from that counter-transference when they do.

Well, I can't send anymore mail to T. My apology keeps just coming back. I guess that solved that problem. Can't help wondering still...it's kinda weird. I have this really vivid mental image of T furious saying, "I do not have *time* for this crap from you!!" Even though T always reassures me that he has never been angry with me.

I gotta try to go get some things done! I simply have to make myself, physically make myself!
Body- get up! Move. Do stuff! Any stuff. Just pick something!

(((BB)))) Hang in there. It'll all be okay.

Thanks Liese!

It's all solved, everybody. But I am not able to post about it yet. I will when I am ready! Thank you guys- all of you rock!

Love,

BB

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Originally posted by blackbird:
Thanks Liese!

It's all solved, everybody. But I am not able to post about it yet. I will when I am ready! Thank you guys- all of you rock!

Love,

BB

ok, well please post as soon as you are ready because now my curiousity is really peaked!!!

so glad to hear this BB - was feeling for you. Glad it is sorted. I often have to tell my P - "I think you are not replying to my request for you to phone me cos you are fed up with me and annoyed that I ask you to phone but infact I know that you are just doing that because you are busy and will phone when you can.I know that. I trust that now."
but some days I bounce back into insecurity again and have to talk myself through it. Easily done.

thanks Sadly and LG. I'll post about it as soon as I can! Thanks for being there.

(((((HUGS))))BB

BB,

Read on another thread that you asked for and got weekly sessions. So happy for you.