My children's father and I have never managed to be amicable. He has his story and I have mine but short answer is that we despise each other. Despite this, I have been the one to support the connection between him and the boys. After an incident at the weekend I decided after ten years to change my mobile phone number so that he could no longer contact me.

To help my older son I set him up a facebook account and put him on to talk to his dad. The same derogatory, abusive stuff came up. I decided to close the account. I have warned my ex that if it continues I will change my son's phone number so that he cannot call him. I said that he is welcome to write letters(he lives a state away)

I'm finally doing what I have been blamed for, for the past ten years. I feel awful doing this to my children, but if it was anyone else talking to them like this, they would have been gone long ago.

I know this is a strong, protective thing to do, but boy do I feel like an absolute heel.

deepfried- I didn't want to connect this post to yours because i think its apples and oranges but I think I know a tiny slice of how you feel.