The Therapist starts most sessions with 'What do you want to talk about today...' I freeze, feel as if I am being put on the spot...and would like to say to him: "I came to you for help..." If I could figure this out on my own I would not be here...I have asked him not to start the session that way because I do freeze and then I feel incompetent...like I have to figure out the one thing to talk about to fix this whole situation...
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Why don't you say "let's talk about why I find it so hard to talk to you when you ask me that"?
or "can we together decide on another opening line because when you say that I freeze"?
Take a tiny step forward. It will pay off.
TN
or "can we together decide on another opening line because when you say that I freeze"?
Take a tiny step forward. It will pay off.
TN
My T doesn't say anything she waits for me to start which can be hard too
Luc
Luc
You get used to it pops lol
Luc mine is the same. Unless he has big T related news.
It's good bc it helps you become empowered and responsible for your T and your life
It's good bc it helps you become empowered and responsible for your T and your life
Same here, the wait can be long sometimes. Sometimes it is even me that says to him "what shall we talk about today"!!!
Scars I do the same lol I will say to T do you have anything to say?
Thank you guys for your replies I always appreciate your feedback...
I think the reason that question causes so much angst for me is because I feel that I have to somehow come up with the ONE thing that is going to make this situation all better...and it is mirroring how I grew up...always feeling that I had to know the answer...figure everything out on my own...
Hope all of you are doing well...
I think the reason that question causes so much angst for me is because I feel that I have to somehow come up with the ONE thing that is going to make this situation all better...and it is mirroring how I grew up...always feeling that I had to know the answer...figure everything out on my own...
Hope all of you are doing well...
Yesss. I go all blank. Or it seems like nothing matters to talk and I don't have to be there. And T tries to make me talk thinking I'm nervous or sthg. And I'm all it has been normal, the week has been soo normal, nothing remembered, nothing felt. Let's just EMDR me. I have to come up with some strategy.
Tas wonder if you'd thought about your T's starting style of showing deep respect - allowing you to set the focus and T closely following and helping you explore thoughts, feelings etc tat are meaningful for you. Lots if us missed that in childhood esp when we were told how to feel, how to think or just simply ignored.
TAS, mine says "So what's going on?" which makes me feel like I'm being accused of something! I just try to think of my own opening thing to say even before I get to his office and kind of ignore his.
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