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If I were a T, what would I find to be the most challenging aspects of the job? What would my weaknesses be?

What mistakes would I be most likely to make, and how would I react if a client were to call me on those mistakes?

I think it could be challenging for me to avoid burnout and compassion fatigue. I think it's hard to care about people who are suffering so much without getting a little exhausted.

I also think I'd have a hard time letting my clients struggle without trying to rescue them. I would be tempted to give too much advice instead of letting them figure things out for themselves.

I might struggle with laughing at inappropriate moments when it might hurt a client's feelings. I have a strange sense of humor sometimes.

I think I would be OK with being called on those kinds of mistakes, because I know that I'd be prone to them.

Thanks BLT!

You would probably do better than I would.

For me, I would probably grow impatient after a certain point. I would NOT be tempted to rescue, but say something along the lines of "GROW UP...you are a ADULT.. you know what to do, just DO it"!

But that's not a good idea. And it would make me a hypocrite. I would also be prone to burnout. I would give a client all I had when we met in session, but sadly, I would have to admit that I would not allow email or text contact because it would drive me batty.

Also, I enjoy my clients when I'm there, but I that doesn't mean that I like them enough to allow them into my own world or even want to see them more than once a week. I'm very, very private.

I also want to add that I admit that I would favor some clients over others. Not in my actions, but my thoughts. I would not want to have to like everyone. Or maybe I would, it depends. I do think that some clients would annoy me.

So, I need to look at this in myself..I'm being honest. How could I expect any more from a T? I don't even have patience for myself much of the time.

Hello, countertransference. I don't think any T is immune.

Any thoughts welcome!

If I were a T
Even just for a day
I’d roll outta bed in the morning
And throw on what I wanted then go
Drink chai with the colleagues
And chase after clients
I’d kick it with who I wanted
And I’d never get confronted for it.
Cause they’d stick up for me.

[Chorus]
If I were a T
I think I could understand
How it feels to love a girl
I swear I’d be a better man.
I’d listen to her
Cause I know how it hurts
When you lose the one you wanted
Cause he’s taken you for granted
And everything you had got destroyed

[Verse]
If I were a T
I would turn off my phone
Tell everyone it’s broken
So they’d think that I was workin' alone
I’d put myself first
And make the rules as I go
Cause I know that she’d be faithful
Waitin’ to see me every week

[Chorus]
If I were a T
I think I could understand
How it feels to love a girl
I swear I’d be a better man.
I’d listen to her
Cause I know how it hurts
When you lose the one you wanted (wanted)
Cause he’s taken you for granted (granted)
And everything you had got destroyed

[Bridge]
It’s a little too late for you to come back
Say its just a mistake
Think I’d forgive you like that
If you thought I would wait for you
You thought wrong

[Chorus 2]
But you’re just a T
You don’t understand
Yeah you don’t understand
How it feels to love a girl someday
You wish you were a better man
You don’t listen to her
You don’t care how it hurts
Until you lose the one you wanted
Cause you’ve taken her for granted
And everything you have got destroyed
But you’re just a T

Liese

Couldn't resist. Beyonce's version happens to be one of my favorites. I didn't have to change many words. It kind of fit perfectly.

Love it! Very clever Liese!

Liese,
You so funny!


Hopeful

You cracked me up Liese! Thanks for the laugh.

Glad you guys appreciated it. I did worry that it might be offensive to some but I just couldn't get that song out of my head every time I looked at the thread title.

I like it!!