OK, so here is the deal...my H and I have had serious problems finding a decent couples T. My T recommended a bunch, but most of them weren't actually seeing couples or didn't take our insurance. The rest were too far to get to or didn't have hours that worked with H's workday.

We've been seeing one for a while now, but I'm not sure how successful it's been, although it did seem to help a little. The last session we had with him, he spent most of the time trying to convince us to buy a second car in order to solve our arguments about transportation. The bigger problems (attachment stuff and control issues) remain unresolved.

So, in the middle of all of this, I realized my former T (who I haven't seen in over 18 months) is returning from a sabbatical in a couple of weeks. Some on this forum remember that I stopped seeing her after I reluctantly agreed with her that she wasn't the right T for me at the time. In retrospect, problems included her unclear contact policy, her pushing me too hard and failing to take things slowly around my attachment issues, and her superficial physical resemblance to someone who had recently betrayed me.

I thought about it, and none of those things are going to make any difference any more, or in a couples counselling situation. There would be no reason to contact her outside of session, the focus would be on myself and H anyway, and I'm kind of over the betrayal by my ex-mentor.

Anyway, if my problem with our current couples T is that he doesn't push us to deal with the real issues, and isn't interested in the deeper attachment stuff, oldT as I remember her is exactly the opposite. She is incredibly interested in the attachment side of things, and tends to go straight for the throat in terms of talking about the deeper stuff, which was more than I could handle at the time, but might actually work in a couples framework.

Anyway, am I going nuts here? Is she even likely to consider doing this?