I asked him to use a different word, because the concept of interviewing is full of pressure. So, I thought it would be happening in a few weeks, since his schedule is always so busy, but it sounds like he might have a double evening session available for me Tuesday. Actually, it sounds like he has been working really hard to make his schedule work out for me to do this. He originally suggested mornings, but I told him I can't be Mommy to Boo after intense therapy. It's really hard to find two hours in the evenings, but he went out of his way to arrange his schedule around my needs. Also, I'm paying for it as if it is a single session (though I said we would track and pay him if/when our finances improve). He's going so out of his way to prioritize my needs and what will make me feel safe to do this and I am feeling like I am just "too much." Yes, communicating that stuff to him too...
I've had some tough stuff coming up regarding some dissociated feelings about some behavior on the part of my grandma, who was the closest thing I had to an AF. I'm hoping there is nothing more there than just slightly inappropriate concern/obsession with certain aspects of my life that apparently made me really uncomfortable. So, I'm just a bit worried if something more will come up.
I feel like I just have no clue what to expect. I know my T won't push if it's too hard or if it just doesn't come naturally to me. He will go slow with me, as slow as I want and am able to move. But, not knowing how things will be (not seeing the path, so-to-speak) is making me very anxious. I feel like if I blank out really hard with T, I can trust him to be safe, but I'm afraid of what I might say or do, considering things that have happened when I am alone. Then, on the other side, if I can't get out of the way and just let things happen, I will feel like a failure. T says there is really no expectation and all that matters is getting at the truth, so even if nothing happens or there is "nothing there" like I always hear, the success is knowing the truth. Basically, it won't change his belief in me or how he thinks/feels about me as a person.
It doesn't really feel like we're rushing things, though I thought about that possibility when processing why I am so anxious. It's something I want to try, to see if it helps, since there is a lot of inside compulsion to have more direct communication of the internal feedback I am always getting. However, I'm also extremely scared about it, because I have never willingly been this vulnerable with anyone in my life and it is so unknown. I know T will be safe with me, so that's not a worry. I just wish I had some sort of a map for these things. I wish there was someone who could tell me, "It's going to be OK," and actually have that be believable and true.
Anyway, all of this is just me getting these things off my chest and really, more than anything else, for thoughts and prayers over how this session will go, the stuff that has been coming up for me and my discernment if things don't feel right to just redirect the session somewhere else.