I know I am new here, but I have been stewing over my use of the internet in regards to my relationship with my T.

I just spent about an hour clearing my name off of internet databases. There are many things I can't remove, as they are articles published, workshops, etc, and I'm ok with that stuff being out there. I'm not ok with my number, full name, address, and family information out there, so I am doing something about it.

I realized that I'm beating myself up over using the internet to gather information. It's ok to do "google" for some things (work, research, etc,) but not others(my T, my Boss, etc)? That doesn't seem right to me. (And it's my own rule!)

So, just to put this out there for everyone - if you don't want to be "found" online, it's not my job to not find you. It's your job to make sure you are not findable. In other words - if I can find stuff out online about you, then that's not my fault. Sites to check: spokeo.com, mylife.com, 123people.com - all storehouses of information you might not want out there. And for pete's sake - set your FB profile to private if you don't want to be found!

We have to protect ourselves in ways we might not have had to in the past, thanks to the internet. Didn't think of it this way until just now. Thanks for letting me get this off my chest! Hope that my T feels the same way when I tell her that I now have her picture, thanks to her family's non-private FB pages...!