My question has to be "Why am I addicted to connecting with her when I know I will feel worse afterwards?"
Sometimes it's a truly bad situation, but this morning, it was just a normal "yucky" feeling that is most difficult to shake off (which is why I am writing about it now!).
I wake up having had amazingly great dreams and feeling lots of love. It's early for me, before 8:00 am, but I'm energized, so I get up and begin my ritual of coffee making. After the coffee is done, I have a bright idea ... "Let's take one of the cats outside and I can have my coffee with them on the patio at my new table and chairs"! I pick Seven because she is little and hasn't been outside much. All is well. We are both excited for the treat. After a cup, I come back inside and (hesitantly) decide it's time to call Mom and tell her where I've been (for shock value). (PS - I typically call her every morning anyway.)
It's not that she started an argument or anything, it's just that I feel she sucks all the positive energy from me (for a while, til I rebuild, like I'm doing now). Don't know why exactly. Maybe it's what she chooses to say. Like yesterday (yes, I'm still brewing about yesterday). Yesterday I had had another fortuitous experience when my periodontist was able to see me as a walk-in because my stitches were coming loose and instead of going back on Tuesday, we were able to remove them then! "Yippee"! So, I called my Mom to tell her the good news - that my stitches were out and I didn't have to go back for two months (yippee)! Somehow the conversation turned to my cell phone message, which she called "stupid". I jokingly told her that I "never call her voice messages bad names" and she went off ... "Well, your message is just SILLY!!!" And it was the tone of her voice, like she was seriously trying to make that a complaint to start an argument. WEIRD.
So this morning, it wasn't even that bad. But, I've noticed how I never feel such a good, warm, loving feeling whenever I talk to her. If I call in the AM, she comments on the time. If I say I was outside between 8 and 9 this morning, she comments "you were outside for an HOUR"? I know she is "only trying to make conversation" (as she puts it), but it's annoying. She wants to quantify everything. Other times she is looking to place blame somewhere. "WHY are your stitches coming loose?" As if I DID something WRONG to CAUSE them to come loose. Never thinking that they just generally would come loose after some time.
I know these things are minor, but the constant annoyance factor is like Chinese Water Torture - over time it just wears you down.
Don't know what to do about it. Not call? That's a bad idea, then she gets the Martyr Syndrome. Call and ignore her? Probably better.
Well, that is my rant for today.