(((TAS))))

Are you thinking your therapist doesn't trust you? And, if so, why?

And what exactly do you mean by "trust"? Trust that we will be honest, that we won't steal from them, that we are there to work, etc.?

(((OUTSIDER)))

That doesn't sound like a trust issue to me. That sounds like he doesn't want you to fail and/or to put you in a weird, unhealthy triangle with you, him and the SI stuff. The guilt of doing it and that breaking the contract would cause, plus the energy required to hide it from your T makes it seem like it would be an unnecessary waste of time and that your T is just wise, not untrusting.

Thank you for the replies!

Liese, when I say trust, I mean a reciprocation of the trust a client has toward the Therapist. However, since therapy is all about the client, does it matter?

Not sure if I am making sense.
T.

(((TAS)))

Well, sort of. But you know, it's different for them because they are not allowing themselves to be vulnerable. They don't reveal hardly anything to us at all. Thought-provoking question TAS.

Want to tell us more about what's going on in your mind about this?

The therapist I see stated that he didn't know if it was important for the Therapist to trust the client. I have been out of sorts with him for a while and did something I shouldn't have done. He knows I did it but I won't tell him I did.

Whether I realize it or not, I am like a child who wants to see just how bad I can be before he cuts me loose.

Thank you for your replies.

(((TAS)))

This sounds like a good time to learn about your parts. My first reaction was, why wait for him to cut you loose? Just quit therapy. But then there is the part of you that is very attached to him and doesn't want to leave?

You need to make friends with both of those parts and they need to make friends with each other. I know that sounds goofy but we have to respect all parts of us.

(((TAS)))

Hi TAS,

I think mutual trust is important. It took me ages and ages to trust T, not cos she ever did anything but remain even and constant, but because I find trust difficult. But she trusted me and that was really empowering in our relationship, especially when I was being so damned awkward at the beginning. So if I had done something wrong as you said you did, for me, knowing that she trusted me still would strengthen our relationship and help it to grow.

She has said that there is nothing I could ever say that would make her judge me negatively....I find that a hard one to accept to be truthful. Hug to you TAS, I hope you can come to a decision about it. Like Liese says there are parts of us all we don't like; the more we ignore them the bigger they make their presence known.



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