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My fourth session with my university psychiatrist has taken on an entirely new vibe. he is friendly, smart and eccentric, i noticed things in our third session that led to intense erotic transference for him. I had no feelings before out third session, but I decided to mention being paranoid of my father having sexual feelings towards me as a child. He spent the rest of the session asking about my sex life, offering helpful analysis. I realise the nature of this discussion would bring up sexual feelings of father-daughter to patient-client transference.

I'm a model and before this, I smiled at him and he appeared all over the place then looked away, after that seemed to take a shining to me! Fourth session, he swanned to his chair and in a very surprisingly loving exasperated tone, announced 'and here we are again!', so overpoweringly I couldn't look him in the face. He's very skilled but is he possibly becoming a bit lovesick? I keep smiling at him because I can't stop feeling flustered! He was abrupt balanced with occasional sweetness in our first two sessions but its now personal like hes come alive. I am 21, he is mid forties, hes showing these little boyish traits. He slipped out he likes my smile, then said laugh, to analyse why laughing may be defensive in facing emotions. He's professional in discussion, but his dreamful tone makes me feel very confused! Am i projecting? I'm pretty good at recognizing when men like me as most I've though have always confirmed so, apart from that memory with my dad! I'm not generally paranoid, I rarely think men do like me due to low self-esteem
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Hi Missdel, you are probably right. You are beautiful and he is finding that he is attracted to you. Normal. If he is a good therapist he should be able to admit it maybe and yet assure you that he will not act on it in any way. If he denies it when you question him, tell him you still feel uncomfortable and could he please work with his own supervisor about this.

Do be careful.

Not all psychiatrists abide by the ethical guidelines.

It is more dangerous if you too are attracted to him because physical attraction is a powerful thing which is why movies and books are full of the drama of it and how it can wreck lives. So the only way through this is to bring it up and be honest and hope he is too and then the both of you can talk ABOUT it in therapy not deny it. It will obviously bring up loads of stuff about your father for you.

sorry if this alarms you but your note seemed to indicate he was not aware of his own attraction to you ...
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Do be careful.

Not all psychiatrists abide by the ethical guidelines.

It is more dangerous if you too are attracted to him because physical attraction is a powerful thing which is why movies and books are full of the drama of it and how it can wreck lives. So the only way through this is to bring it up and be honest and hope he is too and then the both of you can talk ABOUT it in therapy not deny it. It will obviously bring up loads of stuff about your father for you.

sorry if this alarms you but your note seemed to indicate he was not aware of his own attraction to you ...


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