Hi All,
I know it's probably rude of me to ask your ages, but I was just curious.
I am 37 years old and my wonderfully wise T is 56.
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I'm 21, and my T is in her early 30s. I'd guess around 32.
Me 52, T 41 back in March.
Me 20 almost 21 and T is 40 but looks like she could be in her early 30s.
I'm 48, T is 43.
I'm 22 and T is 66 (if I'm remembering things right). She looks like she's in her upper 50's to me. And she's actually only three years older than my mom, so it's not weird having such a large age difference.
I'm 30, my T is in her mid 30's.
I'm 34 and my T is mid-40s. Based on his picture from his Psychology Today profile (which is how I found him) I thought he was younger than I was. I was a bit apprehensive about that, so I was relieved to see that he was actually older and just had an old picture up online.
I'm 51 and my T is 63. He's also an experienced T who's been practicing for 33 years, so he's very good at it.
I'm 26 and T is 54.
I'm 31; T is 61. I know his birthday and everything, albeit accidentally. 
He's four years older than one parent, seven years than the other.
He's four years older than one parent, seven years than the other.
i'm 30, my ts are both mid 50's.
When I was seeing my T last summer, I was 41 and my T was 48.
Man, you guys are young. I think I am too old to be on this forum. Me 55 and T is 65.
I'm 27 and my T is 65, same age as my dad :P
Happy 40th birthday BG - hope the day is a good one!
No-one is too old for the forum Becca - I'm 63 and my dear T is older!!!
Wow Happy 40th BG. You look so young for your age! I hope your day was a happy one.
Hugs
TN
PS.... All I'm sayin' is that my T is 3 years younger than I am and he is still my "Dad".
Happy birthday BG 
Happy 40th birthday BG!!!
Happy Birthday BG, Hope you had a lovely day
starfishy
starfishy
More happy birthday wishes to you, BG! Hope you had a fabulous day.
I'm 42, and my T is 4-5 years younger. Which weirded me out to start with (how can someone so young sort out someone as broken as me?!), and his being a dude felt wrong, too, but my four previous Ts were all older women and ranged in helpfulness from not-very to messed-me-up-even-more so I decided to give him a chance. 15 months in, I'd rate that as one of the better decisions I've made (even if I am still all over the place in terms of attachment).
landa
I'm 42, and my T is 4-5 years younger. Which weirded me out to start with (how can someone so young sort out someone as broken as me?!), and his being a dude felt wrong, too, but my four previous Ts were all older women and ranged in helpfulness from not-very to messed-me-up-even-more so I decided to give him a chance. 15 months in, I'd rate that as one of the better decisions I've made (even if I am still all over the place in terms of attachment).
landa
Belated Happy Birthday wishes for yesterday BG
Life begins at 40 they say. Here's hoping that it is true for you BG
Life begins at 40 they say. Here's hoping that it is true for you BG
Happy 40th Birthday, Blanket Girl!
Awww BG, I'm sorry it sucked. Was it because it was the big 4 - 0? Or something else? Happy belated birthday anyway.
My T is 54 and I'm 48. Perfect, isn't it? LOl!
And Becca, you are not too old. It's great to have such a mix here. Everyone has such different perspectives depending on where they are right now.
My T is 54 and I'm 48. Perfect, isn't it? LOl!
And Becca, you are not too old. It's great to have such a mix here. Everyone has such different perspectives depending on where they are right now.
I will be 53 shortly and my t is 54-55.
BG. As for fourty it wasn't bad. 50 was harder but being "in" your 50's is worse. Hope things get better.
Happy Birthday BG!
I am 27, T is 41.
I am 27, T is 41.
TrueNorth - methinks you avoided the question of your age.......
T and I are the same age 45 - she is 6 months older.
T and I are the same age 45 - she is 6 months older.
I'm 49 and my T is 53 
Luci
Luci
happy belated ((( BG ))) ... i'm so sorry it sucked and i'm sorry you feel like you don't have your shit together. if it makes you feel any better i'm 50 and i certainly don't have my shit together either. T is mid-60s. we're working on it though, right? be gentle to yourself today, ok? ((( BG )))
I'm 43 and T is 64. And Yaks, I know my T's bday too, without any stalking on my part - ha!! Kinda weird having ET for someone close to my parents' age...!
(((BG))) Happy Belated! I understand that let-down feeling - when I turned 40 (& 41, 42, 43...) I was so disgusted with myself for not having reached my goals. But I'm working towards them at least, in baby steps that take me in the right direction, so I guess I'm okay with it now. Hugs to you on your life's journey.
Special note to CTL - you are toooo funny!!! Weight - oy vey!! Time to bring out that old 80's slogan - "let's not, and day we did!" Hugs to ya!
Starry
(((BG))) Happy Belated! I understand that let-down feeling - when I turned 40 (& 41, 42, 43...) I was so disgusted with myself for not having reached my goals. But I'm working towards them at least, in baby steps that take me in the right direction, so I guess I'm okay with it now. Hugs to you on your life's journey.
Special note to CTL - you are toooo funny!!! Weight - oy vey!! Time to bring out that old 80's slogan - "let's not, and day we did!"
Hugs to ya!Starry
((((ATHENACUS)))
What a diverse group we are, huh? And it sounds like for the most part, our T's are on the older, more experienced side of things. Which is good. You young ones keep me young and in touch with what's going on out there.
((((BG))))
Who said you had to reach your goals by 40? Some people succeed early but then burn out by 40. Some people take a more scenic route. Success will come when you are ready for it. At least that's what I tell myself. I wasn't ready for success earlier on. I needed to work on my issues.
My friend's Dad is an incredible role model. He started his own business years ago (he's a physicist and has 12 patents) but never made a lot of money from it. He's 75 now and just told me that he's making more money now than he ever did.
Hero for the day: GRANDMA MOSES
Liese
P.S. Sorry your H was so thickheaded and didn't understand what would have made you happy.
What a diverse group we are, huh? And it sounds like for the most part, our T's are on the older, more experienced side of things. Which is good. You young ones keep me young and in touch with what's going on out there.
((((BG))))
Who said you had to reach your goals by 40? Some people succeed early but then burn out by 40. Some people take a more scenic route. Success will come when you are ready for it. At least that's what I tell myself. I wasn't ready for success earlier on. I needed to work on my issues.
My friend's Dad is an incredible role model. He started his own business years ago (he's a physicist and has 12 patents) but never made a lot of money from it. He's 75 now and just told me that he's making more money now than he ever did.
Hero for the day: GRANDMA MOSES
Liese
P.S. Sorry your H was so thickheaded and didn't understand what would have made you happy.
Belated Happy Birthday wishes to you, Blanket Girl.
I'm sorry it wasn't such a great birthday.
FWIW........Remember, 40 is the new 30!!!
I am 61, my grandson calls that "old and a half"
My T is 69, but she looks like early 40's.
I'm sorry it wasn't such a great birthday.
FWIW........Remember, 40 is the new 30!!!
I am 61, my grandson calls that "old and a half"
My T is 69, but she looks like early 40's.
I just turned 41 and T is 32. We have a lot more in common than I thought we would. He is married with no children. I'm married with two kiddos.
BG,if it makes you feel any better, I hate my birthday too.
Regarding your goals though, sometimes I think we forget that what we see as goals are not necessarily the goals God intended for us. You have more than likely achieved so much more than what you give yourself credit for. You may have said something one or other day that COMPLETELY changed someones life for the better. Your words and actions over the space of 40 years, although not all acknowledged, would surely have made impacts along the way - how could they not have? "Love" and "forgiveness" should be goals for all of humanity, yet I've never heard anyone mention those two things as being personal goals, when they are asked to list what they would like to achieve. The worlds goals are not Gods goals. What the world sees as valuable, more often than not, is not considered spiritually valuable. Having successful relationships with people deserves a tick, helping those in need deserves a tick, not being judgmental deserves a tick, inspiring others to do better deserves a tick, hugging someone whose heart is broken deserves a tick, and so the list goes on.
BG, I'm sure you have achieved a lot of ticks along the way, and I'm sure you have achieved ticks you are not even aware of.
Happy Birthday for yesterday, and happy life for everyday!
Regarding your goals though, sometimes I think we forget that what we see as goals are not necessarily the goals God intended for us. You have more than likely achieved so much more than what you give yourself credit for. You may have said something one or other day that COMPLETELY changed someones life for the better. Your words and actions over the space of 40 years, although not all acknowledged, would surely have made impacts along the way - how could they not have? "Love" and "forgiveness" should be goals for all of humanity, yet I've never heard anyone mention those two things as being personal goals, when they are asked to list what they would like to achieve. The worlds goals are not Gods goals. What the world sees as valuable, more often than not, is not considered spiritually valuable. Having successful relationships with people deserves a tick, helping those in need deserves a tick, not being judgmental deserves a tick, inspiring others to do better deserves a tick, hugging someone whose heart is broken deserves a tick, and so the list goes on.
BG, I'm sure you have achieved a lot of ticks along the way, and I'm sure you have achieved ticks you are not even aware of.
Happy Birthday for yesterday, and happy life for everyday!
BG and B2W...I also dislike my Birthday...in fact, I changed it(not leagally ) to a few days earlier as it has so many bad memories. But, Happy Birthday to you, BG!
I am 40, although my youngest child still tells everyone I'm 29! HA! My T is 59
LK
) to a few days earlier as it has so many bad memories. But, Happy Birthday to you, BG!I am 40, although my youngest child still tells everyone I'm 29! HA! My T is 59
LK
I am 37 and my T is 50!