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Kids home for the Summer

N ninnMember
I'm not sure where to post this since I'm so new here....I hope this is okay....

I'm scared. My kids are out of school; starting tomorrow I'll have them home with me all day. So I go from having 2 home to having 4. They are ages 8, 7, 5, and 4. My depression is still not stable with meds (been with a P since October and he's still adjusting) and right now I'm pretty depressed. The worst part of my kids being home is the loudness. It is so hard for me. When it gets loud my anxiety goes through the roof, if it gets bad enough I will go to my room and have a good cry. I know I should make a daily schedule and try to keep them on it so as to stay organized, mainly for me, maybe that will help. But I'm still scared and having a good cry about it right now. I see my T once a week on Wednesdays at 3:30, so H comes home early from work, and it helps to break up the week. Usually my H takes care of the weekends and I stay in my room (way on the side of the house where it is quiet). I thought I might ask my T if I could go from 1 session a week to 2, just for the summer, to help me through it more. I feel that overwhelmed. I'm not sure H could re-adjust coming home. Well, I have some ideas, but I'm still scared. One day at a time, I guess.

Thanks for reading.
Ninn
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scaredtoriskmyselfscaredtoriskmyselfCo-moderator
Ninn,

I understand how the added responsibility and noise can really pile things on. My kids have all been in school this year and so I've been able to go to therapy without considering their schedule and also rest at home on days that I just didn't think I could deal. Now they are all home all day long and while they are old enough that I can retreat some if I need to then I have the guilt of not interacting with them on the level that I wish that I felt like. You know?

Anyway, I hope that you can find a workable solution. Perhaps a local teen that could come a few hours a week to relieve you?
N ninnMember
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guilt of not interacting with them on the level that I wish that I felt like


STRM, I have a lot of the same guilt, and my T lays more on top of me about it....she tells me my kids will blame themselves for my being in my room and not spending time with them. It is so chaotic with my husband home.

I keep telling myself I'm going to do something good with them this summer....I hope I can.

A teen is a good idea....course then I have guilt about the money I'm spending for that.

Ninn
True NorthTrue NorthCo-moderator
Ninn if you can afford the money it's a good investment. You will be able to get some rest and calm and your kids will be happy too and then when you ARE with them you will enjoy them.

Have you looked into any summer camps, even half day ones? There are churches that offer bible camps for little kids that may be very low cost or even free if the need is there. If you can't do camp then hire a teen who is good with kids and needs a summer job. I did that for half days one year for my son. It worked out great. I was at work and he only had half day camp and then half day sitter.

You need to do what is best for you because ultimately that is what would be best for your kids. They need a healthy mom and you will get healthier with the support of your T and the help from your dh and a sitter/camp for summer.

Don't feel guilty.
Good luck,
TN

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