AJB,
I'm really happy to hear you're doing so well, that you're able to stop scheduling appointments, because that means that you've healed enough to go forward on your own.

But I also totally get the sadness. This is a deep significant relationship (even if there were no transference issues) and when a relationship like that ends, of course you get sad. It's a good thing, but a very bittersweet thing also. So it makes sense that you can both make a decision and feel sad about it. I'm glad you came here to talk about it.

AG

congratulations on feeling so much better that you don't need to schedule future appointments. I can imagine that you feel sorrow for the loss of the relationship but I'm so inspired that you feel ready to move on without regular sessions.

Please keep coming here to talk about things. Whether or not you are in therapy you are always dealing with life, feelings etc.

Thanks SO MUCH for the kind words! It made me feel so much better to be able to express those feelngs on here and have you all respond so empathetically!! You are THE BEST!!

HB:
I hope you are able to get everything squared away before you move. Have you found another T in your new place? Hope he/she treats you right. You deserve it. I know it won't be easy to start over with someone new. Good luck!!

Congrats, ABJ. I don't know your history at all and would be interested to know what you worked on in therapy.

I know it must be a mixed bag of feelings, but as you say, you can always give your T a call and see him again.

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I would've never imagined that I would EVER feel this "normal" again!

This is how i feel now, so it's encouraging to hear that other people actually do get their lives back.

Thanks,
Russ

AJB,
I am sorry it has taken me so long to reply to this message. But I want to express how happy I am for you also. It must really be a bitter sweet feeling, but to feel so positive and as you said so "normal" again is everything we strive so hard to attain. I am glad that you know that the end of your therapy does not mean the end of your relationship with your T. I know my T fondly refers to former clients who keep in touch with her over the years and how she looks forward to hearing from them. That makes me realize that not only do they think of their clients outside of session, but we do touch their lives and they think about us even when we're gone. We're not out of sight out of mind as we may sometimes be inclined to believe.

I am encouraged to know that eventually we do get to where you are as I have lately been accustomed to think of myself as my T's IRA. Right now it feels like this will be a life long endeavor. I can see us sitting along side each other in a nursing home many years from now still processing my traumas.

So I feel for you in both ways. But you better keep in touch with us and let us know what it is like on the other side of tharapy from time to time.

Congratulations!
JM

very good for you! i doubt i'll ever be done but oh well. i workin hard ya know?

HB... i din't kno you in south africa! how cool is that?

samy