jill is a five year old female in a MUCH OLDER BODY!

Hev is a female (well more of a tomboy)lol

Can't speak for anyone else, Mayo, but I'm a woman (or girl, depending on the maturity level on any given day.)

And I'm curious. If you don't mind saying so, why do you ask?

AG

That was very responsible of you to check first Monte.

Thanks for my morning laugh, Monte. Mayo, I've often wondered that too, it's funny how you kind of "know" even when someone has never made a specific reference to their own gender.

I'm male.

Just messing with you. I'm female.


BB

Blackbird! Don't DO that...some of us are more gullible than others, ya know. LOL

Monte, you are hysterical. But I don't want to know why it took you two minutes to "check".

As my name implies, I am a "girl". Kind of a sassy one at the moment...

SG

Girl or woman depending on the day. Not a girly girl at all though.

Monte, thanks for the laugh!

actually, make that a female infant, sucking her thumb looking for mommy but mommy never appears....slowly turning into one of those 'failure to thrive' infants that melts away and lives only in the cyber world of pretend friends and acceptance.

how's that for 'having a bad day!'

BB you posted just as I was writing this reply so want to add first that I’m sure Jill didn’t mean that people on this forum were fake, but that she was feeling sad because she was doubting herself about being able to make friends here. Please don’t you start doubting yourself or us and especially not your T - it’s all real and genuine (((( BB )))).

Jill it sounds like you’re beating yourself up for believing anyone here could like you? Please correct me if I’m wrong I’m trying to read behind your words here. I’d just like to say I’ve had more support and help and good feelings in the last few months from people on this forum than all the rest of my life put together. (Which hasn’t stopped me profoundly doubting my right to be here and take so much!) Don’t feel bad about it, it’s as real as you could get and something really precious.

And as to the thread topic - I’m a girl (funny I find it hard to say ‘woman’ never been comfortable with that word though age wise I am a LONG way from anyone ever describing me as a girl lol). How about female.

LL

quote:

I don't feel the acceptance or the friendship offered here is fake or pretend.

Thanks for that BB- I fully agree. You guys are absolutely wonderfully and fully supportive. (a guy wouldn't say that) I am a female- but I am pretty sure that was obvious.

Ag- the reason I asked is (and I knew you and strummergirl were female) because I am never really sure who I am talking to. Sometimes I try to imagine - visualize the real person -gender, age, life situation based on what I read etc...
that's all- more just curious.

Monte- you made me laugh-

And BB- for a split second- I was shocked!

STRM- I am not a girly girl either. Not my style.

Thanks all- my suspicions were correct- I am speaking to mostly women. How about Jones? Woman - is my guess- but not 100% sure.

Now I think about it more rationally, I can see you are right LL...sorry, jill.

hugs,

BB

Thanks for that LL you have a keen insight. I am hoping you are right.

Your post showed up after I had posted eventhough it is listed before.

Jill- keeping what LL has said in mind, we really do honestly try to help each other here. It is amazing to me how much LOVE i feel from everyone. You being new- might need more time to exerience that.

Hi all,

I just wanted to say that I definitely think that things can feel a lot more fake in the beginning, but once the helpful, caring, and loving nature of everyone here takes hold and sustains, that is when you really start to reap the benefits.

BB, I hope you don't feel bad for posting. I can completely understand why you would find the post triggering. You can't be blamed for feeling a certain way, and you can't be blamed for being honest about it.

Hugs to you all.

Oh, and I am female.

I obviously missed something that has now been deleted, but I just wanted to say that this forum has the most amazing group of people that I've ever run across on the internet. The support and camaraderie that I have experienced here has been amazing. It definitely doesn't feel fake and in fact often feels more "real" than my IRL friends because most of them don't "get it" and I spend so much time faking being "ok" with them and I don't have to do that here!

LL and all, i'm ok, i know y'all are real and nice and care and understand...perhaps some part of me is wanting to test that, like a child, to see if i can push y'all away...but y'all seem to stick.

crappy day, schizophrenic sister trying to pull me under a bit. hard to keep my distance, but i don't have it in me these days to support her too.

just lots of resentment and anger and anxiety out the whaazoo!!

thanks for your kind words, mayo and LL and all!!

Hey, Jilly...we might get triggered sometimes, but we're not going anywhere!

((((((Jill))))))
hope you are not mad at me.


BB

'the dude'
HA HA! never telling

Hey Dude-

You are one of those that I couldn't-wouldn't even guess about. I rarely hear you. So nice to see you post. If we talk for a while, eventually I will have a feel for who you are. It is just fun.

womble woman

Hi Everyone, I have been reading these posts and i totally agree that eveyone is friendly and helpful, and when your lost you can always find an answer. I am so glad i found this site and it is helping me, i feel really behind a few of you, but knowing what may come in the future is very positive. I too wondered who was who, you guess from my name i am female, with a touch of child every now and then, Yeah i guess i am normal after all!!!

quote:

Yeah i guess i am normal after all!!!

You certainly are, Eve, and welcome. what would we do without the child in all of us.

I've been reading these posts with a smile. You all crack me up. I just want to add in my unoriginal way that despite my male avatar, I am female (at least on the outside appearance). On the inside, however I am whatever suits me at the moment.

I am a female, also.

And blackbird - don't mess with my head like that!!

Folks I hope it's okay to say this but I think we should be careful and not guess about people who haven't volunteered...possible hurt feelings at wrong guesses...

quote:

Originally posted by Strummergirl:
Folks I hope it's okay to say this but I think we should be careful and not guess about people who haven't volunteered...possible hurt feelings at wrong guesses...

You are right, SG. I hope I didn't offend anyone.

Yes, we should be sensitive to that.

But for the record, if anyone out there thought I was male, I am not offended.

Too funny DF!! As for me Female,Woman,Girl - but also a tomboy at heart!

Strummergirl- you are right. I think I pulled my post about guessing. Thanks for the insight, I had not thought about that.

I will be sensitive to that, and thanks- truly thanks for that.

Girlie girl? Never was me! LOL

DF - I've been hiding actually. Haven't been in a great place and trying to figure out what is going on with me. T thinks it's the meds again. I think it's a crock of doo doo! So trying to work it out. I have been reading just not too good at posting. Thanks for asking though.

Hi all,

quote:

So who is gonna admit to being a girlie girl?

Well here I am - your 'verging towards quite a girly girl' now that you ask!

Great questions and answers - love it. And yes, the support here is amazing, got me through a difficult time the last 2 weeks, so thanks you guys. And big hug (((smiley))), hang in there, sometimes all you can do is read for a while, but come back when you can,

starfish

Aw, Starfish...I always knew you were secretly a girlie girl! My littel girl bought a purple nightgown with sparkly kitty-cats on it for me for my birthday. Wearing it is quite a challenge!

Welcome back, sweetie, we really missed you.

BB

Smiley: I hope things even out for you soon. Good to hear from you.

Starfish: Good to see you around! I've missed you!

Well since my husband thinks I'm part of him, and he is so enmeshed with my brain...dont know. Guess I'm still a woman.

lizzygirl...that is pretty funny. sad but funny. I relate.

smiley. sorry to hear things are rough for you right now. I hope they get beeter soon. Let us know how you are faring?

DF- so good to see you. So sorry about what you've been going through.

BB

Aw thanks you guys, starfish has returned from chilling out in the beach and trying to get her (girlie) head around the implications of living with memories as they become reality. Have been following all the posts here, which have really helped to make me feel connected to the real world when I seriously thought at times that I wasn't and could never be again perhaps. But life always seems to go full circle, so reality eventually catches up with the rest of my brain and life settles again....until I have to look at it all again maybe

Oh by the way I casually asked my daughter if she thought I was a tomboy or a girly girl -'oh definitely a girly girl mum, but not too much'. So I guess that is confirmation , anybody joining me?!!

starfish

You want my kitty-cat nightgown, Starfish?
I could fed-ex it to you. No problem!

Hope you can kkeep posting here about your experience and stay grounded in the present....hug for you,

BB

So glad to see you back and posting DF!!

BB

Aw thanks for the generous offer, not sure what my husband would say about the kitty cat nightie, might take a bit of explaining!! Maybe I'm not so girly girl as that, never succumbed to a sparkly nightie.......maybe that's where I've been going wrong all these years!! See starfish off shopping tomorrow......

DF I read that you'd been away, so big welcome back too. (((DF)))

starfish

Starfish, Dragonfly, Smiley... it's great to see you all posting again!