It has never worked for my erotic transference, but maybe Im just not on the right medication or dose. My P never mentioned it ever working that way. He says its something that must be talked about to work through it and resolve the feelings and that is the only way to make it change. I would think that if medication would take care of it he would of tried every type of medication by now since the transference has been going on for over 10 years. But he never even considers the transference when making medication decisions.

Hi Halo,
Forgive me but I had to pick myself up from the floor laughing and try to remember to breathe when I read this. I WISH medication had that kind of affect on my feelings for my T. If I had known that I wouldn't have done it the hard way and slogged through being terrified and expressing all those feelings so we could work through the transference. I am wondering if this is more about your Ts discomfort with your feelings and wanting to hold out a quick fix.

I have been on anti-depressants for over 15 years. They definitely help me by providing a bottom, I can only sink so low but they've never affected how I've felt about other people.

AG

Halo, maybe some of it could be treated with medication and some with therapy?
Maybe not all the feelings have to go away?

Halo,

I just wanted to say that it depends on what your illness is and what type of medication they have you on. I have a tendency towards obsessive thoughts about my T, although mine are not of an erotic nature and so have nothing to do with erotomania. However, certain medications can help with OCD, which erotomania is classified as being similar to. Have you had any luck yet? Your posted question is a bit older, so I am wondering if you've had any luck yet? Lamictal and some other medications (I'm currently on Topamax) can help with obsessive thoughts, and I'm sure if they are combined with SSRIs or some other medication that an MD or Psychiatrist is knowledgeable about, you can get some relief, although I doubt it will take all of it completely away. Nothing can turn your thoughts off completely, just lessen their intensity and intrusiveness. Good luck!!

MTF

Hi mtf thanks for your reply. I am still coming off the Effexor (down to 150mg per day after 450mg day) and I am still on Avanza 60mg and Seroquel 25mg. I am not sure yet what meds I am going on I think probably Prozac/Lovan to see if that might help with the depression.

I definitely experience racing thoughts and the Avanza has been a huge help in slowing that down. I am still obsessed with Old P but I am trying hard to break away and my new P is so far holding tight boundaries and being very supportive, it is absolutely astonishing the difference in the therapy when the boundaries are observed and respected by the P.

It would be such a relief to have the thoughts lessen in intensity, it is very very much a burden to be so obsessive. I am going to look up the meds you mentioned now. Thanks again.

I have never heard of Lovan, but it looks like it is Prozac under a different name. I have heard that it and Zoloft both help with OCD type issues. As long as your doctor that is prescribing knows that you're dealing with an OCD tendency and treats it as such, you should be on your way to getting past the obsessive thoughts. Mine are mostly gone, unless of course I start thinking about my T on my own and worrying about her by choice. Then that is my own fault! But yes, obsessive thoughts that don't go away without medication are really burdensome and literally can take away your ability to function normally in everyday life.

The medications I listed would probably be given as sort of an addition to an SSRI, they wouldn't work alone very well and are not anti-depressants. They may not even be something your doctor would consider for you unless the Lovan doesn't work entirely on its own.

I agree with you about the boundaries of your therapist. Without them it can be very difficult. It's hard enough when they have good, firm boundaries, but if they are lacking they are setting you up for a nightmarish experience. I hope things with your new P work out significantly better! Best of luck, Halo!

MTF