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more family stuff *sigh*

thedudethedudeMember
Ok, my sister is making me feel so crazy! Mom's having a big b'day (turning 80) coming up, so us sisters decided to do her 'life book' scrapbook. Spent a long time sorting through photos etc. and figuring out who would do what... now this sister says her kids are doing a 'life' video for mom! It's totally duplicating what we've already done! Only it's only them doin it... not a group thing (though they would put it IS a group thing, like from us all) and they don't have all the pics. as when we organized them we just gave whatever copies peopled needed for their part of the project. This means, I have to go through all the pics. again, and figure which to send her! That's only the half of the story...
*sigh*
Robin
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thedudethedudeMember
part two is a bit more of a touchy topic for me (no pun intended!). This sister also suggested we all go for a manicure (ie. to take mom and us 3 sisters). Thing is she KNOWS that i've always bitten my nails so I'd NOT want to go... only thing is, now I don't bite my nails (about 6 weeks now!) But I'm not sure if I want someone poking my fingers and such... I was going to go on my own, but never did. Now what do I do? Do I say I'm not going and feel left out? or, do i go and feel uncomfortable!?

Robin
thedudethedudeMember
as scott says... my sister can't win... why does everything she do tick me off?? after much delibreation, scott emailed her and said he felt this project undermined all the other work we've done. she emailed back and said she doesn't want anyone to feel 'undermined' and she won't do the movie. but why does THAT even upset me? i think it's because i feel she's being sarcastic and doesn't really care much how i feel *sigh* i'm about ready to give up.

robin
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Robin,
I know when I feel like that its usually because I feel guilty (inappropriately) because getting my way doesn't so much feel like the right thing so much as I got something at someone else's expense which then triggers my feelings of being like my abuser. So even standing up for myself and getting the other person to listen doesn't make me feel better, even though its a perfectly legitimate. And feeling like that leaves me confused. I'm not sure if this is true in your case but I just wanted to offer it as a possibility for you to try out and see if it fits. But you have my sympathies, family is hardly ever easy or simple.

AG

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