My problems with my mother got really bad when I got married. As I have said before I have been married for almost 5 years now and I have one son thats going to be 6 in March.
It a nutshell my mother has an obsession with my 5 year old son.

The first clue to us that she is freaking insane. Was one day when my son was about 3, he wanted something that I said he could have and he got mad because I would let him have it. She threatened to call the state on me for neglect and kick us out (we were living with my Grandmother and my mother at this time, my Grandmother paid the rent so it would have been up to her if were to be kicked out.) Naturally I went into orbit, I called my husband at work and told him what was going on an he flipped as well. I took my son and left the main house and when to our part and didn't talk to her for days, and she wasn't aloud to see my son either. Because she wasn't getting to see him she said that she was sorry and wouldn't do anything like that again.
About a year and a half later, my husband and I decided that we needed to have our son with us more than her, so we pulled back on letting him be in the main house all the time. Well she didn't like that, she had not been able to see our son for all of two days and she flipped, I woke up one morning to find a note taped to our door stating that she was going to sue us for visitation rights because she couldn't see him anytime she wanted. NOTE:We live two feet from each other. Her words were and I Quote. "I will not be denied my grandchild" "I will hire a lawyer and sue" I kept him away even more because she was acting crazy, My husband went in an took my shotgun from the house because we didn't know what was going on in her mind.

Then last year my Grandmother, who was going on 90 years old became ill with dementia, She would repeat actions a lot. I was helping take care of her and taking care of my own family all at the same time. My mother did not work anymore(she retired, she is 60 years old) so I am not sure why she thought she need help. But I was doing for my Grandmother, not her. Anyway she started getting really bad about being in the bathroom for long periods of time.(one night she had been in there for 6 hours and her feet swelled up.) One morning after waking up I need to use the restroom and she had been in there, I wait for a little bit because I didn't know how long she had been in there and I didn't want to rush her. So I went back in the house 20 mins later to my mother screaming and her "YOU BEEN IN THERE ALL DAMN NIGHT!! WHAT THE FUCKS WRONG WITH YOU?" hearing that sent me into shock. I didn't know what to do, I just stood there and watch her get back in bed so she could go back to sleep.
I helped my Grandmother back to her chair and got her settled, went to the bathroom and cried. I could believe what I had just seen. My Grandmother was like a baby at this time she didn't know any better. At this time I called my Aunt and told her how my mom was treating her and asked her to come and help.(My husband and I were in the middle of buying a house at this time)My mother even got mad at me because I wasn't in the house enough to help with my Grandmother.
Because we were moving, my mother decided that she needed to move too. My Aunts wanted her to move to Texas where they could help take care of their mother. But she wanted me to let her come back to Michigan to stay for 2 weeks at a time, anytime she wanted to and she wanted to stay with us in our little 800sf house. I told her "NO" she wasn't going to be coming back every month and she wasn't going to be staying with us if she did come to visit. And that she need to quit thinking about her self and start thinking about whats best for my Grandmother. She got pissed at me for that but at this point I was starting not to care if she got mad at me or not. She ended up being told by my Aunt that if she didn't want to move there fine but they were taking their mother to Texas so they could care for her. She ending up going, which my husband and I jumped for joy.
I was sad because I new it would be the last time I would see my Grandmother alive, I was right. She died back in August. Thats another issue I'm dealing with. Because she was apart of my whole life, she was more of a mother to me than my own. Thats another story though.
Now since my Grandmother has passed away, my mother has moved back and she is driving me nuts. She calls twice a day almost every day, I get anxious when the phone rings and start to panic. She was just over her 2 weeks ago and now she is coming back over tomorrow. I'm sick of telling her the same thing, I'm not even sure if I want to deal with her anymore. She pushes and buts in on everything, she always wants to know what we are doing where we were, Why we didn't answer the phone when she called. Like I told my husband last night after another panic/anxiety attack, I'm not even sure if I want her in my life or our sons. I have told her she need to go see a T and that she has a problem but she thinks what she is doing is fine. Even after I have told her everything that she has done that bothers me.

I don't know what to do. I wish she would have just stayed in Texas.


Sorry its so long.