Hmm. Did the overall feeling of the dream remind you of anything that you've experienced recently?

Did your T disclose any personal information about him recently that may have had some impact on you and the way you see him? That made you feel different about him?

I just woke up from a nap where I dreamed my T invited me to her dinner party!!

I was like, YES!, wait, can she do that??

Stupid ethical boundaries even ruined my dream

Could I be coming to some kind of an acceptance on an emotional level of the limits of our relationship?

BLT, too funny!!! Darn ethics!

Originally posted by Laura K:
Your T being younger - makes him more of an equal. You are regressing him instead of the other way around. His unattractiveness to you again is not having him on a pedestal.

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Like I suddenly came out of some kind of dream.

If you were switching it so that he was younger than you are exploring his past and switching the entire dynamic.

I saw you made reference somewhere else to your kids brushing their teeth like a means of telling them to take care of themselves. T's healthy choppers are perhaps indicating to you he is whole/ had a solid upbringing. Or maybe if they looked fake - its something you think he's worked on as opposed to something he was born with.

How did I do?

(((LAURA)))

You did really well. I think you are right that I took him off the pedestal. He isn't very familiar working through the transference. I am his guinea pig. And so, that could have to do with his youth, his inexperience. The fakeness of his teeth, maybe that has to do with how I struggle with the relationship, is it fake or is it real?

I think in my life, I seem to enjoy learning from an older experienced male. It's a pattern I've repeated over and over, enjoying relationships with my friends fathers when they have something to teach me to enjoying the relationship I have with T because I am learning so much. But, now, because of his inexperience in this one particular area, he is no longer the stronger, wiser other and that means I wouldn't look up to him, that he isn't who I thought he was.