Aw wowser I am sorry, that is so hard. Are you able to say any more about it? Don't worry if you can't for now, it's good to meet you and talk. I hope you will be able to find some support here,

starfish

no im ok sort of, its been about a week now. she says she doesnt want to breakup but wants things to change. but my instinct to end it and stop the pain is growing more evry day

im doing ok i would just like to chat with someone for a fresh perpective

sorry i didnt mean end my life, just the relationship

Hi Wowser
I am sorry, having been left before by someone i loved i know how incredibly painful it is. There is not much that i can say except that i am glad you found the forum and you are not alone.

Also thank you for clearing up that confusion about ending the relationship not your life. All endings are hard and it is difficult to know what is best, i hope you and your girlfriend can come to a decision soon.

Pan

she's supposed to be coming over in a couple hours to talk this situation over. we lived together for a year and a half and i changed my entire life to have her in it. i have children from a previous marriage and the whole integration was extremely difficult. and now she has descided she needs to move out and be more of her own person. now i have to go back through the wreckage of my life and home and try to repair the void that she has left. she is upset and would prefer if i didnt tell anybody or make changes to what was our home. which i feel is very unfair because i feel like im in limbo. i feel like i need to move in some type of direction, am i single am i in a relationship. i have a lot of factors that is affected. i feel she is only considering herself and no one else. which has been a recurring theme in my opinion. Whew! thats some of it.

ooo good luck for the meeting shortly. It sounds as if the situation is very raw still -I hope you can come to some amicable agreement, even if it is only to agree to meet and chat aagain.

starfish

i just feel like im at the end of my rope and i want an answer from, are u in or out. is that unfair