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Well, I have a theory at least for me, since I'm right handed I probably protect myself with my right so if someone came and attacked my right I'd have to fight them off with my (weaker) left so maybe I am more defensive there. I dunno. I'm okay with my T touching me so it's not her personally.

That makes sense. I was wondering if it was something like that as well. I dribble basketball better with my left, play piano better with my left and if I'm typing with one hand, I do that better left handed too for some reason...but I write, eat, throw right handed. Maybe I'm just left-fingered?

I'm glad I'm not the only one. I think it's weird that I just now noticed it, though. Every time I have imagined my T sitting next to me, I have imagined him on my left side. Imagining him anywhere near my right side makes me want to fight, LOL. The dreams I've had where we had physical contact (like holding hands, etc., positive/comforting stuff), it has always been my left hand too. The super-creepy dream I had about my dad, the physical contact was all on my right side and I felt very trapped when it got bad. Just...weird.

Funny, I hadn't thought about this till you brought it up Yaku!

I am right handed, but I prefer to keep people on my right. I like to have my left side free. Dunno why, but maybe I think that if I keep people on my right, then I'll be able to wallup them with my strong side?

Ironically, my right side is severely wakened by some medical issues right now, and I actually have to limit my use of my right arm. Hmmmm, wonder if keeping people to my right is a way to protect my right, weaker, side?

Interesting!!

Another thread that I read much earlier and wanted to post on - so now I am!

Interesting thread. I am right handed and I notice I do everything in a specific order to do with right-handedness. Like, I’ll put my socks and shoes on in a particular order (right foot first.) Always! I tried reversing it a few times and it just felt really uncomfortable – not for any past traumatic reason, but simply because it didn’t ‘feel’ right, and I had to consciously think about doing it, a bit like trying to write with the non-dominant hand.

I also prefer to walk with people to my right, and hold hands with my right hand, holding hands or walking with people on my left side just feels uncomfortable, not ‘right’ in some way – no pun intended. (This also has something to do with having arthritis in the left side of my neck so it can get quite painful having my head inclined to the left for any length of time.) Curiously, though I usually sleep on my back, my former preference was to sleep on my right side – these days I’ll sleep on any side going though.

So just a thought that maybe this preference for keeping people to one side or the other is more to do with habit and what feels naturally comfortable than with anything more sinister? And that being out of the comfort zone can add to anxiety, rather than pointing up something specific to be anxious about?

LL

After reading these posts I had to share. I have a Spiritual Healer who told me the reason I have so much trouble with my left side is because that is the maternal side of the body. She said people who have mother issues have trouble with the left side. father issues are on the right side. I always have far more health issues with my left side and cannot stand to have people sitting on that side. It seemd to be a plausable answer to me in my situtation.

This is interesting. I have both mom and dad issues, for sure. In T, I almost always have her on my left if she is sitting with me. It feels really odd and unsafe to have her on my right. I was more physically violated by my father and more emotionally violated by my mother. I can't stand to have someone directly in front of me which I guess would combine the sides maybe?

I have some abdominal pain that is always on the right side and can get really severe. Doctors have never been able to figure it out.

perhaps its actually nothing to do with right or left side, perhaps thats just a smokescreen and a way of fantasizing one has control over their anxiousness?