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I am always really curious about what happens in therapy, so I love to read people’s accounts of their sessions here. I figured it would be nice if I could be brave and post about my sessions as well. Sorry the post is so long- it seemed to spin out of control as I was writing it Eeker

Some background:

I’m a woman in my mid-30’s, living in the DC area, working as a mathematician. I started seeing my T because I was having an existential crisis. I doubted that reality was real, and I felt like nothing could possibly matter. I didn’t think anything could actually help me, but I wanted to explore all options before doing anything drastic. So I started therapy. My T focused in pretty quickly on my history of CSA and physical abuse. I’ve always felt that I wasn’t affected by the abuse, but I’m starting to accept that I have been affected. My T tells me that I have complex PTSD. I admit it's a possibility.

I’ve been seeing my T for about 15 months now. I see him twice a week. His modality is eclectic, but pulls strongly from “Relational Therapy”. I’m still a bit unclear on all of it, but the gist of it is that it focuses on the relationship between the client and the T, and that they are considered equals in the relationship. My T self-discloses a lot more than most T’s. He has told me that there has never been a question from a client that has been too personal for him to answer. It is often really hard for me to talk in therapy. I have asked my T to let the silences go on way longer than he normally would because I will eventually talk, I just need time to get there.

He does not use touch in therapy (he has said he will shake hands, but I have never done that.) The thought of any touch from him freaks me out, so I am OK with this, but I do feel bad for his other clients who might benefit from touch. He is available by text and email outside sessions, but I almost never contact him. I like my T a lot, but I don’t think I love him. I don’t think he loves me, but I do feel his care for me.

Our sessions have been super-intense for the last few months, since the “Door Incident” happened. I was in session with him when there was a sound at the door, which triggered a flashback and just straight-up terror in me. It took me about 30 minutes to calm down enough to say anything. I was horribly embarrassed by it, but one thing I noticed was that as I was driving home, I was already re-writing the incident in my mind to one where I had faked the whole reaction because I am an awful, manipulative liar who wanted attention. Except I also knew that I hadn’t faked it. This lead into several sessions exploring my “narrative” and what it would mean for that narrative not to be true. The Door Incident has also led my T to really push me to try EMDR, which I am scared to do because I feel like I will “fail” it.

I’ve had a really hard time setting any goals in therapy. It feels too vulnerable to admit to wanting anything, because then I’ve shown a bit of myself to him and it can be used to hurt me. A while ago, my T asked me to write down a list of what I want from therapy. I really didn’t want to do it, but I finally worked up the nerve to do it last week. I read them aloud to my T in last Tuesday’s session (which was amazingly hard to do.) We didn’t have any time to actually talk about them on Tuesday, so I was hoping we would talk about them last Friday.

Friday’s session:

It’s been a super-stressful week at work, and I haven’t slept very well. I’ve felt almost like I’m vibrating inside for the past few days. We do our breathing/meditation in the beginning, and I try to relax into it but I don’t really succeed. The fan is on (to provide some white noise) but I still startle at every sound.

T says that I look stressed out, and I talk about what’s going on at work for a while. T asks me if I realize that I become energized when I talk about my boss. I hadn’t realized that, and I want to deny it. But it’s probably true.

T asks me what I want to talk about today, a question which always stumps me. I don’t say anything for a while, and we just look at each other, and then finally I say that I read him my List (of what I want out of therapy) in the last session but we haven’t talked about it yet. I also bring up the EMDR which he scared me with a few sessions ago and then never brought up again.

He wants me to choose which of the two I want to talk about, which leads to another silence because my choosing something makes me vulnerable. I do the thing where I keep opening my mouth to talk but my brain won’t let me say anything (it’s got to keep me safe). Finally I’m able to say that I’d like to talk about my List.

And then he asks me to explain why I chose that. He is really not letting up on me, which is what I said I wanted, and is what I wanted, but it is also harder on me than I imagined it would be. I’m able to explain my choice, though.

But it’s about to get harder, because he says that he knows that me reading the List in the last session was extremely hard for me to do, and he thinks that I should read them out loud to him in each session that we have. WTF! I immediately freeze in my seat. The world goes swirly around me, sounds become muffled and distant, and then my brain stops working. When I come to, I can hear him asking me what is going on inside me.

I really don’t know what to say, because I can’t remember what’s been going on. Finally I say that I am feeling really threatened by him and am trying not to feel so scared.

He says that it is understandable that I am scared by what he wants me to do. He talks for a while about why he wants me to do it, but I don’t remember much about what he says. He has some tortured analogy about this is like quitting smoking, which boils down to: we have to do stuff that we really don’t want to do in order to be better in the end. He also brings out all the big guns (by using my own words against me- all the stuff I’ve been saying about wanting him to push me, to call me on my bullshit, that I’m not that fragile.)

I’m really scared to do this. I don’t want to do it, but I think I have to. I am not that fucking fragile and I can do things that I don’t want to do and that make me vulnerable. But I want to say no.

I tell him that I feel like I can’t say no to it. That even if he pretended to be OK with me saying no, that there was no way that he actually could be. That he wouldn’t respect me, because I’ve been saying I want to be pushed but then I don’t want to do this. That he would want to hurt me for saying no to him. That I have to do what he wants or he will wait until I am not protected and then attack me.

I can’t look at him, I feel so ashamed. He’s talking to me, but I don’t know what he’s saying. Finally I register that he’s asking me to look at him. My first instinct is to hide myself, to not look, but he keeps talking in a soothing voice and finally I look up at him. We lock eyes for a beat or two, and he stops talking and we just look at each other.

He asks me to describe what I see when I look at him, but I can’t say anything. He asks if I want him to help me, and I nod, so he starts asking questions like what does his posture look like, how does his voice sound, what is his face telling me, etc. I feel like an idiot that I need him to do this basic stuff with me, that I need him to show me that he isn’t angry. I say that I can see that he isn’t projecting himself as a threat to me, but that doesn’t mean I am not going to be punished if I say no.

Friday’s sessions have to end on time, because T has a DBT group to run right after my session. He says that time is almost up. I am still very triggered. He asks if I am OK. I start to just reflexively say yes, but he stops me. He says that if I need him to, he will go tell the DBT group to wait and he will take more time with me.

It makes me feel safe that he would offer to do that. I tell him though that I don’t want him to do that. He asks again how I am doing, and I say that I am feeling a lot of shame and will probably want to hurt myself, but that I am going to be with friends all weekend and won’t have the chance. He reminds me that I can text him as well, and he goes over the response I told hi I wanted from him if I did text. And then he says that we need to come up with more ways to keep me safe, even though it is my choice to SI. And then I leave, and it is already 10 minutes after my session was supposed to end, and I have to walk through the waiting room filled with DBT people with tears all on my face, but I am glad he made sure I was safe instead of kicking me out.

I see him again tomorrow morning. I keep remembering what he wants me to do and feeling waves of fear wash over me. You would think it would be easier because I’ve already read them to him once, but that is so not the case. I want to be strong and do this, because I do think it is probably something I need to face. I’m not sure what I’m going to do tomorrow.
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((((NANNABEE)))

Thanks for sharing your session. It was interesting to read. Your T sounds like a very caring T. I like that he made sure you were okay before letting you go and reminded you that you can text him. I really like that he addressed your SI and said that you have to find other ways to help you be safe.

I had/have trouble talking to my T also. We just talked about surface stuff for a very long time, things I did on a daily basis. It does sound like your T pushes you hard quite a bit.

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I keep remembering what he wants me to do and feeling waves of fear wash over me. You would think it would be easier because I’ve already read them to him once, but that is so not the case.


Why is it so hard to say things out loud? I can think them in my head but forcing those words past my lips is brutal. It's as if once I say it, it makes it more real, more concrete. Then I can't avoid dealing with it anymore.

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I want to be strong and do this, because I do think it is probably something I need to face. I’m not sure what I’m going to do tomorrow.


You will be strong. Let us know how it went.
Nannabee - Thanks so much for sharing your session. I get a lot from reading other peoples' therapy experiences, whether it be new perspectives or just feeling more normal.

I'm so sorry about the triggering door incident. I have had those sort of things happen before and it can be terrifying. T's first office is in a very large office building, so sometimes someone will be walking a lot on the floor above. Once, another therapist seemed to be using his after hours (I have late sessions usually) to build something or hang pictures, so there was all this hammering and I started shaking, without really understanding why, because it sounded like pounding footsteps. I also had a bad reaction once to T unzipping my backpack to get a stuffed animal I bring out for me (well, a little part who we were trying to work with at the time). We've had a couple near or actual janitorial bust ins, even though T locks the door and puts a huge sign up in English and Spanish saying not to come in. Now, if he hears them, he just puts the bin outside. He also gets mad (not like super angry, but obviously very protective of the safety of the room, which feels really good. Anyway, all that to say, I can very much relate to how scary it must have been.

Oh, boy how I relate to the terror of choosing what to talk about. I always try to make T choose, because I really have no idea and go kind of foggy, but he is just patient until I can talk. Or we will go over my journals. Not only can I still, after two years, not read them out loud, but I also can barely stand to hear what I wrote spoken. It brings up so much shame and worthlessness. There are days where he has to just reference a location and them paraphrase/summarize and that feels survivable. Every now and then, he will gently push about me building up to tolerating hearing it, then reading it myself. Just Friday, he said he really thinks I could do it and would like to start trying that. I said I might just stop sending the journals. I am petrified. But he says it's an opportunity, even if we can't actually tackle the whole thing, to explore, share and sit with the feelings that come up when I feel "seen" and vulnerable.

I have told T to push me before, so I really get what you mean when it's something you do want, but gosh it's SO hard, no matter how gentle he is. And then if I can't do it, yes the huge abandonment or abuse fears for not being good enough or strong enough to handle it. But I'm sure (as you know) your T isn't upset at you for how hard it is. He sounds really attuned, so I'm betting he understands those feelings.

Lastly, good job on sharing those fears, because it can be paralyzing to try to do so in the moment. I also often feel like I'm being "bad" for being afraid, since T is so kind, but he always understands. Smiler
Thanks everyone for your responses. I had my session with T today. I’ll write a full update later, but I did it! I read the List out loud. It was hard but I survived. Big Grin

Monte- Wow! I can’t imagine how shocking it must have been to have the cleaner walk into your session like that! I would be so freaked out. It’s really nice of your T to sit in front of the door to keep you safe.

Both my sessions are supposed to be 50 minutes, but there is no one after me on Tuesdays so they usually end up being about 75 minutes. Friday sessions usually go right up to the start of his DBT group, so I get about 60 minutes. At first I felt guilty for my session times always running over, but my T and I have talked about it over and over and I believe him now when he tells me I can trust him to take care of his own time needs.

I do think that my T’s openness in sharing himself with me helps me to trust him and feel safe with him. He certainly feels very real to me, and I feel like we are on even footing in the relationship, which is a huge deal for me. But I do know that there is a trade-off, in that we don’t get to work in the transference so much (I’m sure there is still some transference there, but it is way harder to discern this way.)

Wants are such hard things to deal with. Do you feel like you are scared in some way of having your wants/needs met? Or scared that they won’t be met and so you make it your “fault” that they aren’t met?

BG- Thanks for reading my super-long post Roll Eyes Other people’s sessions always fascinate me as well. It's crazy how different all our T's can be from each other, and still be good T's. I feel like the Door Incident was such a turning point for my therapy, but my T and I haven’t talked about it all that much. I’ve told him the gist of the flash-back content, but it’s almost like we don’t need to talk about it, since we both experienced it together. I’m sorry you’ve had to deal with these experiences as well. They are so not fun to go through.

Liese- It really is so hard to say things out loud, isn’t it? You’re right, it does make it seem infinitely more real to have the words actually come out of your mouth rather than to just write them down. And it can be downright excruciating to be sitting in therapy, wanting to open up but just not being able to do it. Does your T do anything to help you talk? Sometimes all I can do is talk about surface stuff as well, and my T says that it is OK, that sometimes we need a break from the intensity, but I always wish I could make myself go deeper.

Mousy- Man, between you and Monte, I’m going to be on high alert for the cleaning staff from now on Eeker And the hammering on the walls- how awful- I can feel myself getting tense just thinking of it. I do like thinking of your T getting protective of you and your space. Go T!

Writing is just so much safer for some reason. I totally hear you with the shame and worthlessness that comes up. I’ve thought about recording my sessions, because I don’t remember much from the sessions where I dissociate, but the thought of having to hear my voice on the recorder stops me. Ugh. I couldn’t stand to hear it.

I do want my T to push me, and he has been reluctant to do so in the past. I actually laughed to myself later on after Friday’s session, because even though I had asked T to push me, it was just so galling to me that he was using my own words against me like that.

I’m sorry you feel those abandonment/abuse fears too. It sucks to realize just how protected I have had to keep myself, where even something like saying no to my T, where I “know” he won’t hurt me, still makes me feel like I am in danger.



-Bee
Yesterday's session:

Breathing/meditation. I surprise myself by being able to relax.

We chit-chat about my vacation for a bit, then T asks if there is anything in particular on my mind. I have been thinking about Friday’s session all week, but it feels too exposing to bring it up, so I shrug and say no. I feel like a coward.

He asks if I have given more thought reading the List out loud. I say that I keep trying to convince myself that it isn’t a big deal, but I’ve been feeling shivers of fear whenever I think about it. I say I know intellectually that he won’t use these to hurt me or to ridicule me, but that my body doesn’t know it. I know it doesn’t make sense, since he’s already read them and I’ve already read them aloud once, but it still terrifies me. I feel ashamed that I am so scared of doing it. I say that while I intellectually trust him, I don’t emotionally trust him yet. It feels wrong to tell him this, even if it is true. I don’t want to hurt him. I haven’t been looking at him while I am talking, but I am finally able to bring my eyes to his face. He looks calm.

He asks if it would be easier for me to read them aloud in front of G [my best friend] instead of him. I don’t have an immediate answer. I ponder it for a while. I am really not sure, but I answer that it probably would be easier (although still really hard to do), because I have built up a level of trust with him that I don’t have with T yet. He asks me more about that trust, and I talk about how we’ve been through so much together. And how open and effusive and loving G is. And then I talk about how awful our friendship could be for the first several years, and that looking back now I can see how our dynamics were playing out. And then I talk about attachment (which neither T nor I have ever talked about before), and how G is the first person I’ve ever felt attached to, and that in the beginning and for a long time afterwards it was a insecure attachment. I was so incredibly needy and scared of him abandoning me.

T gets really energized at the mention of attachment. He asks what I have read about it, and mentions some names of people in the field. I recognize them, but can’t really remember all that I’ve read about. My mind just goes blank. I’d like to talk to him about it more next session after I’ve refreshed my memory.

T talks about trying to feel the security that I feel with G as I do scary things in therapy. He emphasizes that he is not using the word “think” here, as he knows that I “know”’ that I am safe, but that he wants me to try to feel it. I am not really sure how to do this. He tells me to try to imagine a time when I was with G and I felt safe and secure. I do imagine this, and it feels calming, but I am not able to hold onto that feeling very long. T starts to say that I don't have to read my List today, but I don’t want to take the pass he’s giving me. I’ve been dreading this, and don’t want to do it, but I do believe that it is what I need to do, and I just want to get it over with.

I look at my List for a while, getting up the nerve to do it, have a few false starts, and then start reading. My voice is shaky and I start tearing up as I read, and it is so hard to keep reading, but I do it. I look down at the floor for a while, taking time to compose myself before looking at T. He gives me a warm smile, and thanks me for reading it to him. He asks me to rate the level of anxiety I felt doing it on a 1-10 scale, and I put it at about an 8.5.

He asks me what was happening to me as I read it. I try to describe everything that was going on inside (the fear, not wanting to really feel the meaning of the words I was saying, feeling like I was under a microscope with him observing me). Then I say that now I am feeling a lot of self-hatred. He looks a bit surprised at this and asks if I can help him understand what I am feeling.

I let myself feel it a bit more strongly and get really overwhelmed by it. I try to talk, but all I can say is that I hate how weak I am. There is a lot more inside me, but I can’t say it. I start shaking a bit and clenching my fists and tears are falling down my cheeks. I grab a tissue and calm myself down, breathing slowly.

T talks about how I always had to be strong as a kid. I could never let myself feel anything. I couldn’t let myself be seen, even if I wanted it. He says that he wonders if even though I say that I don’t trust him, maybe I actually do and that is part of what is scaring me. That I do feel a connection with him and that I am scared by what it means. That actually being seen by him is distressing to me.

I think about this for a while. I am truly not sure what I feel, and I tell him that. It is definitely something to think about. I tell him that the last few months of sessions have felt different to me, that I feel like my trust level in him has grown, even if it isn’t at full trust yet.

T says that if I feel up to it, he’d like me to try reading the List out loud to myself each day. Or if I can't say them out loud, then to at least read them to myself.

I am uncomfortable with that- I'd rather pretend they don't exist, but will try. He looks at me for a beat or two, and it is a pretty intense look that makes me feel like shielding myself. He says that he too has noticed a difference in our sessions for the last few months. He feels like I am letting him in more, letting him see a little bit more of the real me, and that he feels closer to me. He says it also helps him understand me more. I feel glad for his confirmation that our sessions have been more intense and different; it’s not just my imagination. He brings his chair up and it is time to go.

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My List (I'm sharing this here instead of reading them aloud to myself.)

I want to not hate myself.

I want to want to live.

I want to be able to stand up for myself, to feel like I don’t deserve to be hurt, to feel like I can say no.

I want to not freeze and feel scared when I am touched. I want to feel like less of a freak.

I want to feel like something matters.

I want to feel excitement.

I want to not be scared at every little noise. I want to not be on edge all the time.

I want to feel more human (and not feel shame about not being a robot). I want to have emotions.

I want to understand myself and learn how to have compassion for myself.

I want to feel like I am lovable.
(((Nannabee)))

Thanks for sharing about your session. I read it earlier and have been trying to find my way to commenting today, but my brain is pretty fuzzy, so I'm afraid it won't make much sense. I was thinking about your list as I read it and why it might cause such anger directed at yourself. When I read it and thought about you wanting those things, I thought, wow, that is a really good list of goals that she deserves to have. Then, I tried to read it thinking about me having those goals for myself and I got very upset, angry, filled with self-loathing. Almost like one part of me yelling at others, "That's not stuff you get to have!!!" Like there was some sort of giving up on ourself as a human a long time ago and then rules against even wanting things to be different or something. I don't know if it resonates, but that's how it feels to me, like forbidden, like those things can never belong to me. Frowner I'm sorry if you feel that way too. When I think about you having those things, I definitely KNOW you deserve it and hope your healing journey takes you there. Hug two
Nannabee thank you so much for sharing your sessions with us. I was riveted. You write about them so beautifully and I felt like I was there with you and your T. I think you have a wonderful T and he sounds very much like mine. I think you should be very proud of yourself for what you accomplished in reading your list. And your list is very similar to mine... if I had a list. I have never sat with myself long enough to find that list within myself. I have been in a huge struggle lately with self-loathing because of some very real adversity at work. I sometimes feel like I'm going backwards but my T has assured me I'm doing everything right.

Like your T, my T is big on bringing my attention to experiencing what is going on between us in session. He won't outright ask me to trust him or to believe him, etc. He asks about my experience with him and he asks me to look at our history together. It works but it takes a long time to build that history and accumulate those experiences.

As for the door issue... my T has told me that he locks the door (I never realized this) because he got tired of having delivery people interrupt his sessions. But, I still get nervous and twitchy when I hear footsteps in his reception room. This has become more pronounced since his wife moving into the next office. I am always afraid she can hear us. I also hate walking through that room when there are people there. I always have my sunglasses at the ready to cover my eyes when I leave there. It is also difficult because the bank I have used for 20 years is on the first floor of his building and I often run into employees out having a cigarette and feel like I want to be invisible.

So thanks again, Nannabee. I hope you continue to progress in therapy and also to share your sessions with us.

Hugs
TN
((Nannabee)) I've been following this thread but haven't had a chance to say much yet (sorry). I love the detail in what you're talking about here - this is one of the things I find most useful is to read other's therapy experiences. Thanks for being so vulnerable; I hope this helps with your processing too (it helps me when I write, too!).

My T and I made a similar list to the one you shared. Just last week... she wrote them out on an index card for me and I have it in my sight right now (it's taped to the inside of my bookshelf) I haven't been able to read them outloud either but it helps to see them. I have another card by my bed about self empowerment and trusting myself from her that I read almost every night. I hope some day you can say them outloud even if to yourself and I think it was a big step to commit to writing them here, too!

I like that you said your T gets really energized at the mention of attachment - my T gets energized (Both of them) by any mention of anger. I'm really often wordy and expressive in the words I say but in the tone it's not expressive so when I mention I'm angry they try to go to the well let's express it part. And I'm more of a... let's just discuss it type and not go there type. T had me try to do this pillow punching exercise last session with her. Most shameful thing I've done in my entire course of therapy. It was to try to help release the anger but.... it brought up so much shame. So shame is often something we really need to get through to get to those issues our Ts are energized by. It's cool that you see that in your session.

The door incident does sound like it was really a pinnacle point in your therapy - like you said... I don't think I've ever 'gone there' (very long) with my Ts and I can relate so much to what you're saying about... faking the whole reaction. I feel like that a lot because I have an "observer" part of myself that kinda judges and watches everything (that's not exactly the right description) so if I was freaking out I have a tiny voice going 'this is dumb, Cat... get a grip' so it feels like I do have a grip... when I actually don't.

Thanks again for sharing all of this - I've been following along but I'm sorry not to have a bigger reply at the moment there is all kinds of stuff I enjoyed reading and could relate to.

Hug two
Yesterday's session was another hard one, that I still need time to think about. I'll try posting about it later.

Closed Doors- thank you for reading my posts. I was worried they might be boring, so it really means a lot to me to know you enjoyed reading them. I do try to be honest with myself, but I definitely have some blind-spots still.

Mousy- Your post makes total sense. When I was reading it, I felt a little jolt, because I have said those exact words “This is not stuff you get to have!” to myself many times. It’s not even that I don’t “deserve” to have goals, but that all these goals belong to a category of things that normal humans can have but I can’t. My wanting them is like a horse wanting to drive a car. And so, yeah, my admitting to myself that I do want them is shameful and makes me hate myself for being weak and wanting something that I am not supposed to have. I’m really sorry you feel this way too (but a selfish part of me is glad you understand.) And you know, just like you said, thinking of you thinking these thoughts, I can see how twisted up this thinking is. That we are both humans and no one is making rules but ourselves. (((Mousy))) I hope we both do get to a point where we feel that we are allowed to be humans.

TN- Thank you so much for saying you were riveted. It’s a little weird to say (don’t want to sound stalker-ish Roll Eyes), but you were a big inspiration to me in getting the courage to post about my sessions. I’ve enjoyed reading about your sessions with your T so much, and then you posted in the Newbies thread that you would like to read more posts about sessions. So that helped me get over my fear that no one would care about my sessions but me.

You know, one of the benefits that I didn’t expect to posting was getting to hear other people’s thoughts about my T. I’ve struggled for a while with feeling like he didn’t know what he was doing in therapy (a fear that I have shared with him.) Getting to see him through all of your eyes has been really good for me. I can see how attuned to me he is and how much he is doing “right”. I’ve never really appreciated just how steady and secure he is for me.

I totally hear you on how hard it is to “be” with yourself enough to come up with a list of goals. I resisted doing it for a really long time. It does bring up a ton of self-loathing. I’m sorry about your work situation. I know for me it is almost impossible to separate my work-identity from my worth as a person.

I never realized just how many of us have had issues with the door in therapy. For me, closed doors in general trigger me, so I was primed for a flash-back with the noise. But I felt like such a freak, and so it is reassuring to realize I am not alone. I know how much having your T’s wife in the same office suite bothers you. I can totally imagine that hearing footsteps outside the office would be hard for you to deal with. And I have big sunglasses as well. I feel a little weird rushing through the dark waiting room with them on, but it is so much better than the alternative Cool.

Cat- Thanks for reading and responding. I started writing down my sessions because I was having a problem remembering what had happened and I didn’t want to record them. I’ve found that writing them down is a great way to get my mind to integrate and understand what went on in the session. And having them available to read later on helps when I want to feel connected and safe. They are like a little mini-sessions available 24/7.

Is it good to have your list written out where you can see it? I tend to feel such shame that I want to keep mine hidden, but I can see how having them out in open and getting used to seeing them would be good.

I had to smile at your T’s getting energized by anger, because my T does too. I think it must be a T thing. And, oh man Cat, I was cringing inside along with you reading about your pillow punching exercise (not that it is shameful, but I completely understand the shame.) I’ve never really thought about myself having parts before, but I do think I have an “observer” part just like you. And the observer part would ridicule me mercilessly if I ever punched a pillow with my T in session.

(((hugs))) to you all,

-Bee
Hi Bee,

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Is it good to have your list written out where you can see it?


Yes and no... hehe it's good to have it when I'm willing to have a reminder or am happily doing the things on my list. It's bad when I'm not in the mood so I stare at it angrily, and hate myself but then knowing my T wrote it helps there because I feel connected to her then I feel a little calmer.

I might have to start writing stuff down, I like what you said about it being a minisession! Someone else today was saying they write stuff down too.

THANK YOU for cringing with my on the pillow thing. It was awful LOL. What's good though is my T had experienced doing this and she said that she spent the first 10 minutes with her face in her hands gently batting and then it unleashed and she felt tons of shame after. So, she understood how silly I felt too hehe... when I saw her yesterday she said it might not be my thing and I think I agree.

Has your T suggested ways to deal with the anger when it comes up in session? My Ts just get excited then try to get me to 'go there' more and reflect ("cheer") for it a lot.

- Cat

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