Hi Emerald,

I sorry you have had so much uncertainty lately about the availability of your T. It is very hard to maintain a secure attachment to someone when stuff keeps changing like that. Not to mention all of the "rules" - I don't mean boundaries in therapy but all of the bureaucratic rules it seems that are making things hard for you.

Is there any way your T can help you transition to a new T before you hit the age limit? Can your T talk to your Dr. and see if something can be worked out so you can still see her?

At least for now, can you call her for some support to get you through to your next session?

This all really sucks and it doesn't sound fair. You can rant and rave and vent here all you like - we will listen and understand and a lot of folks here can certainly empathize!

Emerald,

That does sound really hard. I'd want to talk to my T about that a LOT. Especially if I'd spent a lot of time getting used to someone, and then they were going away, or maybe not, or...

I'd be really confused.

Hi Emerald. I am sorry things have been so confusing for you lately. It must be really hard to connect with your T amidst so much uncertainty. I encourage you to talk to your T and tell her what your feeling.

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She originally said that she would be able to see me still and see me outside of that place and now my dr says she cant and im feeling really stressed out and dont know what to do.

So your T said she can see you and your dr. said she can't? what's up with that? Talk about confusion! I can see why! I am so sorry for you, but I would definitely tell your t what your dr. said. Don't give up hun, I know your sad and scared, but you won't be alone. Keep working and keep doing what you need to do. If anything, think about the time you have left with your T, not what will happen if/when you can't see her. Who knows how well you will be doing, you know?!?

Keep posting, we're listening.

-CT

how you doin today em?

this year is going way too fast, only have 6 months left to see my T. So scared and stressed out about it. I don't know what to do.
My anxiety is getting heaps hard to deal with and I'm thinking about running away from therapy altogether.

I have been referred to a pdoc and i have seen her once. She is the person that wil be taking over from my T. She is nice and everything but shes just not my T and Im too attached to my T

Emerald- I'm sorry to hear your anxiety is getting harder to manage. I know this all must feel very overwhelming to you, but I encourage you not to run although you really want to (I know the power of that flight reflex!). Focus on the six months you do have... maybe make some goals you'd like to accomplish in the next six months with your t.

What does your t say about her leaving? Are you going to keep seeing (over the next 6 months) the pdoc that is taking over for your t? It might help with the transition if you do.

I know it's little consolation but I want to remind you that part of therapy for most of us entails creating a good ending... most of us haven't experienced that before. I know for me, it's very difficult to think of. I don't want to be without my t... ever... but I know that part of her job is to teach me how to/ know when to end something.

Keep writing and talking
-CT