Hi all,

I joined this forum today after finding it while googling "bad abandonment issues". Yes right now I am feeling abandoned by 2 men, first, my ex, and then by the man I am seeing right now who in my heart I know I do not have much feelings for. My ex and I broke up early in the year and I miss him everyday. I miss him even more since I started seeing this other guy who at first was head over heels in love with me. I made it clear to him that I am still trying to get over my ex, and I only can have a sexual relationship with him. Because of that now he's held back in expressing the way he feels for me, does not call very often etc. I know I don't want a real relationship with him but I am going to be honest here, I am feeling extremely abandoned. I hate my ex for leaving me and for putting me through this. It hurts that I compare every man I meet to him. And with this new guy, I am desperately trying to figure out how to bring things back to him chasing me. Oh gosh, I am going crazy trying to figure this out. With regards to seeing a therapist, I saw one a few months ago and I was doing really well so I stopped, I thought I was already over my ex but I was wrong...