Hello,
So I have an appointment with a new T on Mon. This would be my 2nd since being asked to leave by my couples T after telling her that I saw her as more than a therapist, I saw her as a friend. Everything was fine with her until I actually said the word “transference”. That’s when she became visibly uncomfortable.

The T that I have right now, who is helping me deal with the rejection of the T I had transference for, has done a great job, but I’m just not clicking with him. So I will try a female again and see if this works better. I will obviously have to explain my situation more in depth with my new T. I am uncertain as to how honest to be right from the start. Only because I feel it was honesty that got me kicked out initially. And should I not use the word “transference”? Has anybody else noticed a strange response after saying the word? Maybe Ts and Ps would rather hear how you developed feelings or became too attached. I don’t know. I’m open to your thoughts.

I also want to thank Forlorn for the “Lessons Learned” post and all the great guideline questions to ask a new T.

Thanks,

-Stuck