Hi everyone,
I have recently started going to a psychologist for anxiety/panic attacks and some sexual issues. I have been to two separate therapists before. One way back in high school who made me way more anxious so I terminated, and one more recently that I felt so uncomfortable with that I could only do two sessions.
This new therapist feels great. She's really nice, funny and caring so far. Also I have huge anxiety about doctors/hospitals and her office is set up in a way that is really nice and looks nothing like a clinical doctor setting which I appreciate.
I have been to two sessions so far but I am a little nervous about how it is going. I can't stop thinking about it! I feel like I am obsessed with therapy. I want to know more and delve in deeper. I am also really curious about my therapist. I spent awhile online looking her up because I really wanted to know if she had a husband/kids and everything about her. A friend of mine who is in school to become a therapist tells me these are normal feelings that come along with beginning to make a strong connection and relationship, but I still feel crazy! Is this normal to feel this way? How do I stop the obsessing?
Also, I feel frustrated because so far my sessions have been two weeks apart. We have scheduled each time at the end of the session and both times my therapist has said that she doesn't have anything until the following week. Is it normal to only go once every two weeks? This feels like forever to me and I since I finally got up the courage to start working on my anxiety, I want to tackle it now- not wait so long in between. Is this something I can tell my therapist about and request a session every week? Why do you think she is wanting to do every two weeks?
This seems like a really nice forum and I have learned alot from reading your posts already. I hope someone can help me figure out all these new to therapy feelings.
Thanks!
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. ... I actually had weekly apointments and gave two up ... so now I am in the position of having to call in between - if I really feel like I need to see him - and I am very uncomfortable doing that! Sometimes I get over myself and call and sometimes I don't and suffer. He's always gracious and accepting and makes time for me. He never makes me feel bad for wanting to see him more often. I would say if you really want to see her weekly you should bring this up to her .... and see if she can accommodate you ... my therapist's schedule is so packed that he has a "float list" ... when people call in for an unscheduled appointment, your name goes on a list, and they call you when there is an opening ... My son was diagnosed with ADD last year and he was on the float list for a while but it got unbearable because I needed more predictability in my life and couldn't tolerate the last minute phone calls and appointments (I have four kids)... so I finally told him I couldn't do the float list anymore and they were able to find a regular appointment for him .. although the regular appointment was far from ideal ... i basically had to be in three places at once ... so i tolerated that for a while (it was better than the float list) and finally told him I couldn't do that anymore either and unless he could accommodate me, I wouldn't want to find another therapist for my son, but I would have to .... and he was able to get a client to switch appointments with me and now I finally have an appointment for my son that works for me! It's all about asking for what you want .... and hopefully getting it! Maybe not right away ... but hopefully eventually! 
