
My thoughts are with you today!
quote:Originally posted by sapphire-blue:
She is meant to be concerned about your feelings... not the other way aroundI'm sorry she got upset, but you didn't do anything wrong blue.
Hope you can manage not to get sucked back into this dynamic with her.
sb
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Here we offer another personal assessment in the form of some early warning signs of nonsexual boundary crossings that could cause confusion and disadvantage clients. These signals, some of which are adapted from Epstein and Simon (1990), Keith-Spiegel, 2014; Pope and Keith-Spiegel (2008), and Walker and Clark (1999), include the following:
- Actively seeking opportunities to spend time with a client outside of a professional setting;
- Anticipating, with uncommon excitement, a certain client's appointment;
- Expecting that certain clients should volunteer to do favors for you (e.g., getting you a better deal from her business);
- Viewing a client as in a position to advance your own position and fantasizing as to how that would play out;
- Wishing that a client were not a client and, instead, in some other type of relationship with you (e.g., your best friend or business partner);
- Disclosing considerable detail about your own life to a client and expecting interest or nurturing in return;
- Trying to influence a client's hobbies, political or religious views, or other personal choices that have no direct therapeutic relevance;
- Allowing a client to take undue advantage without confronting him or her (e.g., allowing many missed appointments without calling to cancel);
- Relying on a client's presence or praise or boost how you feel about yourself;
- Giving into a client's requests and perspectives on issues from fear that he or she will otherwise leave therapy;
- Feeling entitled to all of the credit when a client improves, especially if a marked achievement is attained while under your care;
- Viewing one or more clients as among the central people in your life;
- Greatly resisting terminating a client despite indicators that termination would be appropriate;
- Believing that you are the only person who can help a particular client;
- Noticing that the pattern of interactions with a client is becoming increasingly irrelevant to the therapeutic goals;
- Feeling jealous or envious of a clients’ other close relationships;
- Frequently allowing the therapy session to go overtime;
- Instigating communications with a client in between sessions for reasons that are contrived or irrelevant to the therapy issues;
- Finding yourself making extra efforts to impress a client about yourself and your achievements;
- A feeling of dread upon sensing that a client may decide to leave therapy; and finally,
- Feeling uncomfortable discussing the “red flags” that pertain to you with a trusted colleague because you are concerned that the colleague would be critical of your thinking or behavior.
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