I don't really have any fantasies about my T other than having imaginary conversations with him in my head. I never picture him anywhere outside of his office. I don't wonder about where he lives, what kind of car he drives, whether he mows the lawn, what he eats for breakfast, what he reads, his dog's name.

We've had some trouble lately and I think he thinks I have questions about him. I don't have questions ABOUT him, I have questions for him.

Also, I think he thinks that I would like it if he thought about me outside of session, and that's not really true either. I mean I would like him to think of me outside of session in the sense that I want him to be able to remember me and things about our relationship, but I don't expect him to be thinking of me when he's eating dinner for Pete's sake.

One time I asked him in a reassuring message to tell me that he was thinking of me, but I meant it the way you would mean it with a friend, like in theory, and in the way that it just means that they support you.

When I started with him I did want to know the basics, like what kind of family he had and if he had siblings and two parents who were still together and why he wanted to be a therapist and how old he is, but that's about it.

I never picture us doing anything together or being anywhere outside of his office.

It irks me that he assumes that I have the typical desires that some of his other clients may have. He told me once that he embraces his ignorance because it means he doesn't assume, but I think he is assuming.

Anyone else NOT wonder about T's real life much? Or have fantasies?