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Hi Lizzygirl,
I don’t think he was expecting you to master those skills at all, expecting you to try them isn’t asking you to master them. I’m sure he wasn’t expecting you to be 100% perfect, only attempt to use a couple of the skills.
In my opinion, we see T’s for support, but we have to do the work ourselves. What I did was my T introduced me to some coping skills in therapy, and then I did some more research, decided what my coping skills would be myself, I practice them myself, and then I go to my T and debrief, and get encouragement and praise for using those skills.
I know his response probably hurt, but IMO it was the best, most healthy response your T could have given you. It’s really easy to misunderstand a person’s intent over email when they aren’t there to explain more of what they mean. It wouldn’t have been responsible of him to continue the conversation over email. Of course you have permission to disagree, but that’s just how I see it.
Hope your Tuesday appointment goes okay.
I don’t think he was expecting you to master those skills at all, expecting you to try them isn’t asking you to master them. I’m sure he wasn’t expecting you to be 100% perfect, only attempt to use a couple of the skills.
quote:Am I supposed to read about them and master them alone? Isn't that why I see him.
In my opinion, we see T’s for support, but we have to do the work ourselves. What I did was my T introduced me to some coping skills in therapy, and then I did some more research, decided what my coping skills would be myself, I practice them myself, and then I go to my T and debrief, and get encouragement and praise for using those skills.
quote:Hold on, he will see me Tuesday and we will determine which direction to go in.
I know his response probably hurt, but IMO it was the best, most healthy response your T could have given you. It’s really easy to misunderstand a person’s intent over email when they aren’t there to explain more of what they mean. It wouldn’t have been responsible of him to continue the conversation over email. Of course you have permission to disagree, but that’s just how I see it.
Hope your Tuesday appointment goes okay.
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I can see why you would be frustrated and upset with T, Lizzygirl. I can see how it would feel a bit like he was dismissing you, rejecting you, not really wanting to help.
A different way of looking at it, however, might be that he believes you are strong and intelligent and that you have within you the capacity to overcome any obstacle or challenge. Even though right now you feel dependent on him, he knows that it is actually YOU doing the work in therapy and that is YOU who will carry you through the difficult times.
Stay strong and have faith in yourself...and in T. He believes in you!
A different way of looking at it, however, might be that he believes you are strong and intelligent and that you have within you the capacity to overcome any obstacle or challenge. Even though right now you feel dependent on him, he knows that it is actually YOU doing the work in therapy and that is YOU who will carry you through the difficult times.
Stay strong and have faith in yourself...and in T. He believes in you!