Hi skylynx - I found drawing helpful. Lots of crayons and felt tip pens and I'd colour and draw how I felt. (Not in hessian with my T but I'd take the pictures I draw to her to talk about)

With regards to what to talk about otherwise - what comes up for you after you leave the rooms? I know for me, it takes a few hours or a few days to have thoughts and feelings and start processing things we talked about at our last session. I then email her (though you could writ it down to take to next session) and we talk about that.

Or maybe y have a list if fears you need to thank to her about.

The transference stuff is always something to talk about and see what that brings up!

Can you allow part of yourself to regress while the rest of you sticks around in order to speak for that part's experience?

I do drawing and touch work when I've got nothing to say.., many times it's tracking my body sensations, crying or doing what BLT says which is to sorta go there but be around to report,

Okay, I haven't realized that pre-verbal means I can be the child self and adult at the same time in the session. That explains a lot. Actually I do that. T asks me how the inner kid feels and I tune in and report in words. I'm relieved to know that's how it works, because it would be embarrassing to my adult self to just get into the child mode and babble baby talk or start sucking my thumb. I realize therapy can sometimes go there, but I'm not ready for that, maybe never will be.

As for drawing, I'm an artist too, and I'm doing an adventure story where T is coming along too. I took 4 pages to the session and I'm ready to take 5 more. The story helped a lot to be less afraid of T, less rigid in how I think of her. But I do those at home, too. Doing some at the therapy session might help me not to feel anxious about "empty" moments.
Thanks for your help,all of you, it makes therapy so much easier to have your support and experience.