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we talked about things she does to set off my rage. in particular she laughs when i say extreme or silly things. she said she wasnt sure why she laughed. and that she appreciates that i pointed out to her that it made me uncomfortable.

she also pointed out that my relationship with my girlfriend involves both of us fearing that the other will end the relationship for some reason and ends up with us both walking on egg shells with one another. the session ended after she pointed that out. she also said its not clear to her if we are terminally compatible. ive only been w. her for 5 months.

i want to resolve this issue but i dont know how yet.
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Hi, DaRock! Hi

I'm so glad you had a productive session - I'm particularly inspired by how open and brave you were in sharing those rage-related things with her. I'm such a wimp, I can't even think about asking my T a question that's weighing on my mind, let alone discuss such things in-depth. So... Kudos to you on that. Maybe I'll be a touch braver than usual tomorrow....
May end up posting about it first for back-up!
Embarrassed

Nice to "meet" ya!
Starry
starry its kinda like jumping off a ledge. you do it and realize youre not scaring anyone that bad. so you do it again. and then you realize its kinda fun. and then you start to sort of play with how to voice those concerns and how much anger to let out. i think its important to understand whats preventing you from saying what you feel. if its fear of your own anger then thats a good thing to know. if its fear of being retaliated upon, thats important too. dont be afraid of your T. let em have it!!!
Thanks, you are sweet, DR. I fear Ts rejection. I fear his disapproval. I did open up a little today, and did alright, but the man still sees the good in me. Like I said in either the How Youre Feeling or Say Anything threads, he thinks I'm better than I am; he has more faith in me than I do. I don't get it. I don't deserve that. I tried to explain that, but I don't think I was very expressive. Will keep learning and trying!
Brick wall
Thanks again,

Starry

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